(Closed) How do you know he’s THE ONE?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I knew he was the one when I realized we are true partners–stronger together than we could ever be alone.  I know he has my back and I have his.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I know he’s the one because he’s the one I chose. 🙂

I chose him because of our incredible commonalities, his strong, good heart, and steady nature. He has been nothing but loving and supportive. I trust him and feel secure with him. He’s gentle. He has the most amazing warm brown eyes. He plays the guitar. And he laughs at himself. He is, essentially, better than what I thought was the best, which tells me that he is nothing short of a Godsend. I’m not taking that for granted.

On the flipside, I know he’s right because he has never abused me or treated me poorly, or made me put aside my dreams, or pulled me down or taken away my confidence. The wrong man is unstable, careless, ignorant, and abusive. The wrong man doesn’t fit into my life, but forces me into his. The wrong man doesn’t care.

Sometimes, the wrong man is just a lima bean trying to fit into my pea pod. (And I don’t mean that in a sexual way. :P)

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I know he is the one because we have gone through the most terrible experiences together and have come out stronger. I know he is the one because we both view love and life the same way, and even at his worst, I am still crazy about him. I knew for sure he was the one when I saw that he had integrity even when he thought no one was looking, I think how your SO treats other people in his life is a great indicator of who he really is. 

I knew my ex wasn’t the one because I never trusted him, and he made me feel insecure.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

He’s the one because as corny as it sounds, he still makes me feel all tingly and he still gives me goosebumps!  He is so loving, respectful and loyal.  I’ve had my trust issues, and occasionally they still come up, but through many instances he has proved to me that he goes by his word, he is definitely an honorable man.  I used to think there’s no way I would ever find that, and I feel so blessed that I have.  He definitely has my back and has been so supportive it’s the best feeling. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

My Fiance and I have been together off and on for ALONG time. Off and on in high school and it got rocky when he started college. Basically, he cheated on me at a party one night. I broke it off for a few months but he was completely devastated over it and not to mention the fact that I had found out that I was pregnant. He worked EXTREMELY hard to get me back and very hard to get close with my family again. I gave him one more chance for the baby and because of course I still loved him. Fast forward two years later and he is the best man, best father, and genuinely the best friend I have. Our son really made us grow up and he turned into a completely different person, basically he became a man. I couldn’t imagine spending my life with another person. He has and will always be the only man I’ve ever truly loved. I love the person he has become. I love the relationship he has with our son. I love how hardworking and driven he is to succeed and make a fantastic life for his family. But most of all, I love the fact that we can talk without saying a word. At a point I never knew if I would be able to fully trust him again, I’m not going to lie. But in all honesty, that all diminished when he proposed to me. He somehow managed to make all my doubts go away when he said the sweetest most heartfelt words I had ever heard. I love him and our family more than anything in the world and I cannot wait to be his wife!!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I realized he was the one when I looked at his cell phone and I didnt have the overwhelming need to look at his text messages. LOL. I know it sounds stupid, but really what it boils down to is trust.

With my ex every time I saw his cell phone I had this want to look through it, and when I did, I always founds something that made me upset or angry. Long story short, he was cheating on me and deep down inside I knew it.

With my Boyfriend or Best Friend now, I completly trust him. No words can explain how wonderful that feels and how much i truly love him

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I knew he was the one when I realized that he makes my life so much better, and he brings out a better person in me.  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I can’t explain it any further than I just know.  I asked my Fiance this question just now and he responded the same way.  I always knew when it wasn’t right either.  I know it sounds cheesy and I never “got” Corinthians 13 before (Love is patient, Love is Kind, etc…) but it really is true.  I have all the patience in the world for him which is huge because I have no patience. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If you have any trust issues, that should be a major red flag.  If I for even a second had trust issues with my Fiance or vice versa, that would most likely cause us to really re-think our engagement and impending marriage.  If you don’t have trust, then what the hell is the point anyway?!

I also don’t understand why ANYONE would ever take back someone who has cheated on them.  That is a whole different issue though.

My Fiance and I have a good relationship for the most part, but at the end of the day we know that we are 100% devoted to each other, want to be with each other even after we have a fight, and have fun together. 

Wedding planning can be stressful and has brought up issues between the two of us.  That coupled with the fact that both of our jobs have been very busy and stressful recently has caused problems.  We were fighting more often. 

After talking, we are trying to remember that we are always on the same team.  When it comes down to it, we have so much in common, we are best friends, and even when something terrible happens, we still want to be there for each other during it.  That’s how I know.

The honeymoon phase is great, but that isn’t real love.  Real love takes work.  Real love is actively commiting to your Fiance and working on your relationship for the better.

 

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

I know he is the one, most simply, because of the way that I feel around him. I still get butterflies every time I drive to see him (in a good way). There is more trust in this relationship than I have ever had in a relationship before. We confide in each other with details of our lives that we have never shared with anyone else. I am perfectly happy around him (most of the time), and when we cuddle, it just feels perfect.

He is the first man that I have not wanted to change to fit my ideal of the perfect man. I think that is the clue which tells you who is not ‘the one.’ If you want him to change significantly for you, he’s not the one. (Note: this is different than growing and changing together.)

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I know he’s the one because of the way we connect with each other. We’re on the same team and we want the same things out of life. There is honestly nothing I would change about our relationship, and I can’t say that about any of my previous relationships. 

He just gets me, and loves me despite all my faults. He makes me want to be a better person, which is saying a lot because I am the queen of laziness and procrastination.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I could write lots and lots of paragraphs about it- alot of them having to do with alot of things other girls have said- trust, having fun, having eachothers backs… but at the end of the day, it absolutely wounds me to think of having to do anything without him! I cannot imagine what my life would be and was without him. I didn’t even know what I was missing!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I know hes the one because, he is honorable and honest. I may not like the truth, but I know I can count him on it. We have been through tough times. and honestly the wedding planning has been one of those tough times. But at the end of the day, I know more about him and he always treats me with respect and takes time to listen. And he isnt a romantic, but he will do the small gestures to make me know that Im his special someone. And hes my best friend, when Im not with him, I wish he was there to share the moment? to have a laugh and stuff. When we have our differances because were both stubborn as each other it never even once crosses my mind that this it too hard to continue.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I know he’s the one because I cant picture my life without him.  He patches me up when im hurt and takes care of me when im sick.  He is ALWAYS on my side and is a good teammate.  He stays up all night and sings to me to sleep when I cant sleep ( i know corny), and he is an amazing dad  to our daughters! This is how i look at it: If you are willing to die for someone then he’s the one. I know thats deep but its true love

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