(Closed) How do you know if a long distance guy likes you more then a friend

posted 5 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

It doesn’t sound as though he likes you that way.  Even if he were hiding it, you deserve a guy who will be straight with you.

Post # 5
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just a friend.

Post # 6
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

He told you he likes you as a friend.. So I would say he likes you as a friend. 

Post # 7
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @Ap2010:  Agree with the other Bees, sadly this doesn’t sound like E is over the moon on you.  (sorry)

A man who is crushing on you big time, and it’ll be very obvious… you won’t have to ask.

As for your disability…

The only disability you truly have is the one that sees you making excuses for yourself.

Mr Right when he comes along, won’t see any physical disability, he’ll see you for who you truly are… the person on the inside and not the out.

I know this might be hard to believe now… but it is true.

My best advice, is to decide what it is YOUR REALLY & TRULY WANT OUT OF LIFE

Make a List.

What is it you want in a man… what types of Qualities.

Then go look for it.

If this sounds a bit overwhelming, I suggest that you check out some Men who write Self-Help Books about how Relationships and how men think…

They’ll help to give you a better perspective on what Men see as important (and it has a lot less to do with how women look, and a lot more with what we THINK.  And who we really and truly are)

Because utlimately like us Women, Men want Women they can trust and respect, and that we in turn trust & respect them… as these are the true foundations of a loving relationship.

Anyhow here are some faves:

Dr Phil = Love Smart ~ Find The One You Want – Fix the one you got

Greg Behrendt = He’s Just Not That Into You

Steve Harvey = Act Like A Lady ~ Think Like A Man

Straight Talk, No Chaser

and any of the books by John Gray, but in particular Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

Great reading… lots to learn

And tips on how to meet men, internet date etc.

Very empowering, you’ll figure out how to get what you want out of a Relationship, and set the bar high enough so you’ll only attract quality men, and be able to cast the losers aside BEFORE you waste any time on them

Hope this helps,


Post # 8
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

PS… I will add… when a man tells you something… believe him.

When a man tells you he’s a friend, or just wants to be a friend… that is significant.  Cause if you pursue them and “catch them”… ultimately those relationships end up being disappointments, cause we as woman put too much into it, hoping we can sway their mind / change them.  And when we can’t and they move on… saying “I told you I only wanted to be your friend” we get hurt.  Sometimes badly.

A man who is interested in you… will pursue you.

So as I said above in my original post… you’ll know.

Hang in there… it’ll happen.  Promise


Post # 10
7211 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Ap2010:  yes. If he wanted to date you he would tell you so regardless of distance. I’m sorry. I would not dwell on this anymore if I were you. Guys rarely tell a girl they don’t like them when they do. 

Post # 12
4047 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

If he wanted to date you, he would. If he said you’re just a friend then let it go and believe him.

This is assuming you’re an adult. Middle school boys might play those sort of games, but thankfully everyone grows out of it.

Post # 15
9089 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010


It depends on you.  How important is it that you and your man are on the same page, politically?  Or do you enjoy spirited debate?

In my case, it’s a crucial element.  Politics & current events are basically my life as a radio host & political commenatator.  I feel much too passionately about my views to be with someone who didn’t share them.

Politics was the major focus of my entire first date whith Dh & we totally clicked on that.

But, that’s just my unuque situation.  I think it depends on what is important to you, personally.

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