(Closed) how do you know it’s “the one”

posted 10 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Is depicted dress "the" dress?

    yes yes yes!!!!

    nah, keep looking...


  • Post # 3
    7172 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I didn’t get ‘the feeling’ – but it was the dress I kept thinking about and the dress I knew I’d be sad about if I couldn’t buy.

    I really SHOULD have shopped more – as I have some dress regret – but, honestly, I was NOT in the mood to shop anymore and just ended up picking my favorite of all I tried on.

    I refused to shop anymore after putting down the deposit – I would have liked to (even now!) but figured it’s unnecessary torture.

    Post # 4
    229 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I had ‘the one’ feeling before I put mine on. I saw it on the rack and just knew that the style and color were exactly what I wanted. I tried on about 10 dresses in that store and then purchased the very first one I had on. I have no dress regret.

    Lots of people don’t get the feeling. I think you need to try on a few dresses then if you find one you really like ask yourself these questions:

    • Can you picture yourself wearing it on your big day?
    • Would you be sad if you lost the chance to purchase it?
    • Does it flatter your shape and fill you with confidence?

    I wouldn’t really recommend continuing to look at dresses after you’ve purchased one because I think that fuels dress regret.

    I think the dress in the picture looks beautiful on you.

    Post # 5
    2702 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    i didn’t have the stereotypical “THIS IS THE ONE” teary moment.

    my dress ended up being the first one i tried on, i compared the 14/15 dresses thereafter to it… and decided it was the best choice 🙂 it was confirmed by the Maid/Matron of Honor momma and Future Mother-In-Law and bm’s…

    and it was a GO!

    i also didn’t look at other dresses after i bought it… 🙂 no temptation here!

    i made a choice, stuck with it, and am more in love with it every day!

    Post # 6
    513 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I had the I hate that dress look. Then I put it on because the consultant urged me too…ahhh i fell in love. I had the biggest smile. Honestly, I think if you like the dress and feel good in it buy it. But, what about the dress don’t you like. If you can answer that then try to find the dress that has what that one is missing.

    Post # 7
    5385 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I when I saw my dress I stopped and looked at it. I kept walking around the shop. The owner of the store allowed me to try it own and a few others. I tried on a dress similar to it first, and it was nice but not enough. I tried on my dress and I felt beautiful in it. It had everything that I wanted. Even though I did not cry, I know that my dress is perfect for me. I only went to 2 dress shops and tried on a handfull of dresses before finding “the one”.

    Post # 8
    293 posts
    Helper bee

    I totally got *that feeling,* although I was really surprised by it, especially considering I didn’t choose the dress (my lovely consultant and awesome MoH did), and I was trying it on because I promised myself I would not make a decision about whether I liked a dress until it was on my body.  As soon as I put it on I *knew.*  And I have looked at tons of other dresses since (mostly here on the Bee), and have yet to have even a second of doubt.  The rest of the wedding, however, is a total roller coaster! lol 

    You said you *love* the dress . . . that really says it all.  I think the ivory color would be more flattering on your skin tone and also make the details of the dress stand out more (sometimes white tends to make things just blend in).  And if I am being 100% honest, I think adding a slight sweetheart shape the neckline would be really flattering, too.

    Post # 9
    1701 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I definitely love looking at dresses too.  I also have to love something before I put down a significant amount of cash and I never got “that” feeling. I am on my third dress because of it.  You have a really long time until your wedding.  Don’t buy anything until 6 months before–and enjoy looking until then!

    Post # 10
    7768 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I just got a dress I liked that I could afford.  For me, there wasn’t much more to it than that!

    Post # 11
    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I never got that feeling that everyone talks about.  I don’t think everyone gets that “magical” feeling when they find their dress.  I think it really depends on your personality, and people react differently in some situations.  No matter what you get there will always be something out there that is better (it will probably be more expensive too!).  You kind of just have to make the choice… if you love it, its in your price range, and you think it’s a dress that you won’t look back on your pictures in 20 years and think “what was I thinking?” then it’s the right one for you.  Just STOP looking after you buy (or else life will be very difficult for you up until the wedding).

    Post # 12
    1194 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think my dress being “the one” snuck up on me.  I thought one other dress was the one, but I had MY dress on & my family just kept taking pictures & I kept posing & it suddenly hit me that this was it.

    My basic rule was that if I found a dress that was the one, I had to walk away and think about it for a week.  If I kept thinking about it & looking at myself in it, I was allowed to buy it, and I did.

    Just, don’t settle . . . When you buy a dress, stop shopping.  That’s it, it’s done, doors closed.  If you’re not confident getting the dress and stopping the search, then don’t buy it!

    Post # 13
    979 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I never got the one feeling either.  It was the one that looked best on me and I bought it.  I love how it looks now.

    Post # 14
    206 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    YOu have just less than 2 years before the wedding, tons of new styles will come out.  I would wait and shop around, expecially because you love dress shopping so much!

    Post # 15
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Is your wedding date really April 2012??  If so, don’t buy this dress.  Especially since you don’t think you will be able to stop looking.  You might end up with 2+ dresses.

    That being said, it is a beautiful dress and looks great on you!

    Post # 16
    2472 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    If your wedding is April 2012 I wouldn’t buy a dress now.  It’s too early to purchase and there will be tons of more dresses coming out and plenty of time to look at more.

    As far as that dress goes, I’m not really feeling it for you.  It looks like it’s accentuating your chest too much.

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