Post # 1
im baby crazy, like want to be pregant yesterday. my hubby isnt quite ready for it yet, because he wants a bigger house, more money behind us etc, (never a bad thing!!!!!) were also travelling next year so we’ll do that 1st, but it got me thinking, is there actually “a right time” to have a baby???? some people tell me “do this and that first etc” and others are like “theres no right time, have one asap”
im scared there will never be a right time or we wont ever have enough money or seen enough of the world….its gotta be done sometime right??
Post # 3
Im totally of the mindset that there’s never a perfect time.. Sure there are times that are a little less desirable to be having a baby.. But whenever you both feel is the right time.. then that’s it!
I will be going off my bc next month.. My Fiance and I will be getting married next summer so figure we can squeeze a little one into that big open space! We feel we’re ready and are in steady jobs and super excited!!!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015
I know it is the right time not “perfect” when is not the worst.
Post # 5
I have been told so many times by friends that “there’s never a right time”. And while I understand what they’re saying (that it will never be perfect) I disagree. There is a right time but it differs for every couple. I wasn’t ready to take on that responsibility until now, at 31 years old. I also don’t feel completely financially prepared but we set a financial goal to meet and started TTC when we had a comfortable savings. For us, although housing and money aren’t completely as perfect as I’d like it, we would be able to make things work and mentally we’re prepared to take on this responsibility, so it feels like the right time for us now.
Post # 6
I don’t think there’s ever a “perfect” time, but I do think some times are better than others. For us, it’s all about career stability and financial stability. We’re a double-income young couple and it’s SO much easier to save money now than it will be when we have kids, so we’re trying to pay off our mortgage and at least start on college funds before having babies. I think that’ll make life easier later. That being said, I do think we could have babies now and be just fine. We just would rather be patient for a little bit and make our finances nice and strong.
Post # 7
I have no idea…I personally don’t ever think there will be a right time for me…so we’re just gonna let it happen when it happens.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
@fresitachulita: I agree!
bumping this ! (no pun intended)
Post # 8
Love this! I’m turning 30 in a month and we were married this June but have been together 10 years. We bought a house 2 years ago that is big enough for babies, but…..
I hate that I still have student loans, and 3 and a half more years to pay!
After looking at the cost of child care, I feel so overwhelmed. Let alone all the crap babies need (not to meantion time and energy)
I feel ready, but we’re not sure that our scheduals and bank accounts are.
Turning 30 worries me especially since we’d like to have 2, but I think we’re going to wait a year.
Post # 9
Financial/career stability was key for us. Darling Husband also wanted to turn 24 first (I’m 28) which was fine by me. We have a house and an expensive but doable and reliable child care plan. We are so ready!
Post # 10
I’m in this boat too. I want to have a baby pretty badly but the timing isn’t right. We are going to Mexico in December, and I don’t want to be pregnant for that, and then I’m a bridesmaid in a wedding in June, and again I don’t want to be pregnant. We’ve talked about trying after that, but I’m worried things will just keep coming up! We have a house and are financially ready so I think we might just have to pick a date and stick with it!
Post # 11
We are going to start trying in April.
We rent a great place for cheap, have a growing investment portfolio, have a credit card debt and 1 car loan but Darling Husband has a big income and we are doing really well financially. We are looking at buying an investment property next year as well.
December next year I am entitled to paid maternity leave for 12 months, so we feel like this is a good as time as any.
Theoretically, if things work the way we plan, I will be 26 when I give birth and Darling Husband will be 30.