(Closed) how do you know its the right time to TTC?

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Im totally of the mindset that there’s never a perfect time.. Sure there are times that are a little less desirable to be having a baby.. But whenever you both feel is the right time.. then that’s it!

I will be going off my bc next month.. My Fiance and I will be getting married next summer so figure we can squeeze a little one into that big open space! We feel we’re ready and are in steady jobs and super excited!!!!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015

I know it is the right time not “perfect” when is not the worst. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I have been told so many times by friends that “there’s never a right time”.  And while I understand what they’re saying (that it will never be perfect) I disagree.  There is a right time but it differs for every couple.  I wasn’t ready to take on that responsibility until now, at 31 years old. I also don’t feel completely financially prepared but we set a financial goal to meet and started TTC when we had a comfortable savings.  For us, although housing and money aren’t completely as perfect as I’d like it, we would be able to make things work and mentally we’re prepared to take on this responsibility, so it feels like the right time for us now.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think there’s ever a “perfect” time, but I do think some times are better than others. For us, it’s all about career stability and financial stability. We’re a double-income young couple and it’s SO much easier to save money now than it will be when we have kids, so we’re trying to pay off our mortgage and at least start on college funds before having babies. I think that’ll make life easier later. That being said, I do think we could have babies now and be just fine. We just would rather be patient for a little bit and make our finances nice and strong.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have no idea…I personally don’t ever think there will be a right time for me…so we’re just gonna let it happen when it happens. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@fresitachulita:  I agree!

bumping this ! (no pun intended)

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Love this! I’m turning 30 in a month and we were married this June but have been together 10 years. We bought a house 2 years ago that is big enough for babies, but…..

I hate that I still have student loans, and 3 and a half more years to pay!

After looking at the cost of child care, I feel so overwhelmed. Let alone all the crap babies need (not to meantion time and energy) 

I feel ready, but we’re not sure that our scheduals and bank accounts are. 

Turning 30 worries me especially since we’d like to have 2, but I think we’re going to wait a year.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Financial/career stability was key for us. Darling Husband also wanted to turn 24 first (I’m 28) which was fine by me. We have a house and an expensive but doable and reliable child care plan. We are so ready!

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 7 months ago by  HeyJude72.
Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m in this boat too. I want to have a baby pretty badly but the timing isn’t right. We are going to Mexico in December, and I don’t want to be pregnant for that, and then I’m a bridesmaid in a wedding in June, and again I don’t want to be pregnant. We’ve talked about trying after that, but I’m worried things will just keep coming up! We have a house and are financially ready so I think we might just have to pick a date and stick with it!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We are going to start trying in April.

We rent a great place for cheap, have a growing investment portfolio, have a credit card debt and 1 car loan but Darling Husband has a big income and we are doing really well financially. We are looking at buying an investment property next year as well.

December next year I am entitled to paid maternity leave for 12 months, so we feel like this is a good as time as any. 

Theoretically, if things work the way we plan, I will be 26 when I give birth and Darling Husband will be 30.

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