How do you know when it's time to start trying? Serious mixed emotions.

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
584 posts
Busy bee

I feel the same way!! Literally the exact same. I think we’re just going to have to go ahead and do it, so to speak. I’ve heard from pretty much everyone that you’ll never be 100% ready. I mean how can anyone be ready for something so completely life changing?

Post # 3
1131 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

CanadianBride456:  We are TTC and sometimes I feel like this. It’s uncharted waters if you don’t have kids yet. At some point, if you know for a fact you want kids, you just have to jump into the deep end. There is no way of knowing exactly what your life will be like with a kid till you have one.

I am nervous sometimes and wonder how our lives will change, but I’m commited to it and have no real doubt about our choice to have a baby.

Post # 4
2841 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

CanadianBride456:  Personally- I don’t think there is ever the “perfect time”.  I already have a six year old- and my husband and I had talked about having a baby– but I always wanted to put it off (I don’t love being pregnant LOL)- and then when we least expected it– I mean seriously- we REALLY didn’t expect it- for multiple reasons, we found out I was pregnant.  And we were talking the other night and I said how it’s great that it happened the way it did because if I was the one choosing when— it might have never happened (even though I really wanted a baby!)


Here’s the good news– I get that getting cozy with Netflix is awesome.  We do it, too.  But once you have a baby– you’ll realize there’s still plenty of time for Netflix- and that you’re in love all over again in a way you never imagined.

And when they reach a certain age, you’ll have fun cozying up to Netflix with them!

Post # 5
2937 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

I have to agree with PP…. She said there’s still time for cuddling and Netflix, and she’s right. The first few months you’re adjusting to baby, but I still cuddled with hubby and baby, and watched movies…. Later, once they’re in bed it’s time for hubby! We still also do date nights, and dates at home! We now have 2 kids and are more in lOVE than we ever were. We make sure to get in time for each other…. It’s actually way easier than you think! I had doubts at first too, I just one day said let’s do it, and we got pregnant! its so worth it! Believe me. 

Post # 6
2641 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

CanadianBride456:  I’ve been TTC going on two years and tbh it was only during my journey that I’ve become ‘ready’!!! I’ve had two MCs and when I found out I was pregnant both times I was terrified!!! It took a couple of weeks for the excitement to set in. It’s a huge, life altering thing to happen so nobody is going to be 100% prepared no matter what. You just have to know that you are happy to bring a baby into your life and adjust during the process, whether It takes one month or one year. Luckily, you have the pregnancy to prepare!!!

Post # 7
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Loft

CanadianBride456:  I feel your pain, so to speak. FI and I are going to start trying immediately after the wedding. I’m hoping for our honeymoon baby! It makes me sad that our life will never be just us again, but its for a better reason. If I think I love my FI now, I can only imagine how my heart will swell when he holds our child.

Post # 8
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I didn’t known I wanted a baby until I was POAS and felt sad if it turned out negative. I really had no idea I wanted a baby until my daughter arrived! Yes it is life changing but it’s also amazing And so worth giving up the all day netflix Marathons! I think it’s a leap of faith and you’ll never truly have no doubts about it. I told my husband it was a good thing I got pregnant accidently because I don’t think I ever would have been able to say ok let’s go I’m ready.


oh and I agree with Pp there is still more time then you probably think for snuggling and netflix. once my daughtera witching hours disPpeared around 8 weeks or so, I felt our evenings were much more back to “normal”.

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Post # 9
535 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel the same way as you and we’ve been TTC for 2 months now.  🙂  I also love all my downtime with hubby and netflix marathons, but over the last year I’ve really started to feel like there’s something missing in my life.  I think I’ve only gotten so into Netflix because I really don’t have much to do in my spare time.  I would absolutely trade Netflix for a baby.  And hey, kids sleep a lot – there should definitely still be a little time for shows after bedtime.  Maybe not all 3 seasons of New Girl in 2 weeks, but still… (wow I have no life)  🙂 

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