(Closed) How do you know when you are ready?

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Narrawallee reserve/beach & Mollymook golf club

If you wait until you’re ready, you’ll never be ready. There will always be something else you’ll want to add to that list, but there is no reason you can’t do that with a baby Smile Just trust your gut and go for it when the time feels right for you and your partner.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well, I didn’t. But I knew that I was approaching 30 and might not ever feel ready, so we just went for it. Sorry that’s probably not the kind of response you’re looking for, but it’s the truth.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@aliciapdx:  What’s holding y’all back from marriage?

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I dunno, we just felt emotionally ready.  We live in an apartment (we own it, and it has two bedrooms, but still lots of people think that screams “not ready!”).  We have stable jobs that allow us to live relatively comfortably that the additional expenses won’t have us worried every day, and were married for a year when we started TTC, so we decided to just call that “ready enough”.  The rest we’ll figure out on the fly. 

I just think that so many things can change quickly, that even if you’re fully “ready” to have a baby that it might be a short lived thing and you’ll have to be flying by the seat of your pants anyway, so why not.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think you have to be ready to make whatever sacrifices you will need to make in order to be the kind of parents you want to be.  Money, time, all of it.  Babies are a LOT of work.  They add a LOT of love, but they TAKE a lot out of you…. so you have to be ready and able and willing to give all that you need to give.

Make sure you and your partner are on the same page with expectations… what kind of parent each of you wants to be…. what you are willing to do to help out.  etc.

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