(Closed) How do you know you are READY for a baby?

posted 9 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you either know you want to or you know you don’t. But I don’t think there is a certain “time” that you will know. If you try to plan it out, you will always have pros and cons and may never decide!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I don’t think you ever really “know” with a baby!  I was 38 when we got married and I knew that we would have a limited window to have a child if we were going to do so.  I finally decided that I wanted to have the chance at every experience that life had to offer us… That meant carrying and raising a child. 

We figured it would take us about a year (so I’d have time to mentally prepare), though it didn’t actually happen like that for us.  I guess that’s just the beginning of the unpredictability of children.

I didn’t feel like our choice was about future regrets or anything like that, but rather about life experiences.  I’m excited to see what the future holds for me and my partner, and what “family” will mean to us.

I don’t know if this will help, but I can very accurately say that I never had that strong biological urge to have children.  It was more intellectual than that for me!

I wanted to add this thread to the mix:

Afraid we wont ever be ready for kids?

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My mom always said, if you wait until you are 100% ready to have a baby, you will never have a baby.  She said eventually you just have to, and go from there.

LOL. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

For us, it will be when we are more financially stable, and when I’m ready to give up my current lifestyle ;o)  We still enjoy going out and such (esp. to the bar for football Sunday) and I would miss that if I was pregnant/had a kid.  I’m also training for two half-marathons and hopefully the 2011 NYC Marathon and you can’t do that when you’re pregnant ;o)

So once we’re ready to switch to a more toned-down lifestyle, and have enough money to support a family, we’ll do it.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow, congrats 808bride!  That’s crazy that you just knew!

Guess you are ready for a baby then!

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

Congrats! Yay, another baby bee!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Congrats! 🙂

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

HAHA! That’s awesome, congrats!!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

haha, congrats!!! this thread came full circle! Laughing

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