(Closed) How do you label escort cards for +1??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Worker bee

You need to call and get the people’s names.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

give them a cut off of when they can get you their date/guest’s name

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

You need to ask for the name. People need to decide whom they are bringing or they clearly don’t know the person they are bringing well enough to justify bringing that person to the wedding. This isn’t a birthday party after all. This is why true plus 1s are an etiquette no-no. They cause planning nightmares.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with what the other bees are saying. This is what I had to do. People where sending back RSVPs without their guests names. So I gave them a deadline of when I needed the names by in order to get the place cards done and save my sanity. 

Post # 9
Hostess
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Since you can’t get the guests’ names, I would put “Ms. Bo Peep and Guest” on the same card. A guest woudn’t know where to even start looking for their name. 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

It is inappropriate not to use the guest’s name on the escort card. You will need this person’s name (and address) anyway in case you need to send a thank you note for a gift. How silly would you feel having to ask everyone who brought a date if their date was Angie because Angie no-last-name gave you a $25 gift card and you need to send her a thank you? Since these two people (the actual invitee and the guest) are not a social unit, they need separate cards and no card should simply say “Guest” or “Guest of” at an event like a wedding.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I have one guest who actually told me to put “and guest” due to recent relationship issues. She isn’t sure if he will be her date or not and I said as long as you’re ok with the impersonal gesture its fine with me. Who is it hurting if the people on the card don’t care? No one. If you have a lot of + 1s though, I’d ask. A couple would be ok to get away with “and guest”.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Oh and use Ms. Katy Perry and Guest on 1 card.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

@MrsDiddles:  Just assume it’s the boyfriend/girlfriend and do that. Then if they bring someone else, that person will just grab the date’s name. I’ve seen this done, it’s not confusing at all.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

All of your guests should be addressed by name. It is not polite to call someone “and guest”

You have to get the primary invitee to give you their name.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

While I agree she should try to get the name, I also do not think she should be strongarming her guests into providing it (i.e. “I need the name of your guest by March 3 or else!”  ok I’m exaggerating a little).

If you are leaving it up to your guest to bring a +1 of their choosing and they do not provide a name after you ask them once or twice, then just use the first option (same card). Don’t kill yourself over it by asking them over and over again.  You can’t force them to give it to you, and short of disinviting them which would be unbelievably rude, I can’t see any other recourse.

And as far as thank you’s go, the gift should include both the guest and +1 names on the card, and therefore you can write the appropriate thank you.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@kimm99:  

I concur

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