(Closed) How do you ladies feel about this…

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m not sure how to respond because I don’t know if you’re the bride or not, but I would say this is not cool. I know my friends and family and this would not go over well at all.

I’m also learning that different things are acceptable in different parts of the country so again, I won’t judge. It just wouldn’t work for me and as a guest, I’d be a little put off. Not angry or offended, but I don’t like to be micromanaged, especially with gift giving.

I’m probably no help, I’m just still a little, “…what in the world?”

Post # 4
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381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I have mixed feelings. On one hand, I think it’s creative but on the other hand, I think it’s rude to ask for monetary gifts – which is basically what that site looks to be achieving.

EDIT: Also, this just wouldn’t go over well with my family.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Hmmm…it’s just like a registry with pots, pans and housewares but for a nursery, a stoller, a trip and other stuff. I always purchase gifts from the registry and give cash if there is no registry so I don’t see a problem with it. I’d rather give someone something they want/need and will use.

Post # 6
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

It gives me the ickies. How do you even know the money will go towards what it is supposed to go towards?

Post # 7
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241 posts
Helper bee

I can’t say it’s selfish esp since one of the items is a donation for cancer but I would just give cash.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@iloveflowers: I missed the cancer one. That one doesn’t give me the ickies, but I’d like to see which charity it was going to.

Post # 9
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14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Nope, not a fan of this, but I would really not go over well with our family or circle of friends.

Post # 11
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1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would say that it seems a bit scattered.  Baby stuff? Shouldn’t you save that for your baby shower? 

I feel like it should be all about one thing: for example, the honeymoon (and break down all the different aspects of things that they can ‘buy’ for you).  The list just seems a little vague. Instead of just ‘date nights’.  Why don’t you write a list of all the different date nights you want to have and people can buy individual date nights for you.  Maybe just stick to the date nights and the honeymoon. 

By the way, I noticed that you didn’t say how many $20s you need for your plane tickets. 

My 2 cents. 

PS. FYI, we did a honeymoon registry and people LOVED it.  We also did a traditional registry.  Most people just gave us money in the end. (The traditional registry was used a lot for the shower though).

Post # 12
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764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s AWFUL! The money goes directly into their account…

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@SFreeman2187, that’s a bit harsh. What’s the dif between money going ‘straight into their account’ and giving them cash at the wedding for ‘no specified reason’?  This puts some ‘thought’ behind the cash. 

Post # 14
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2790 posts
Sugar bee

I dislike this. I agree that the baby things should be for that time in their lives. If she was pregnant while getting married that would maybe make more sense. I also dislike how you must give $20, 60, 80 or 100. Plus, what are they going to do with that stroller for the next 2-6 years before they have a baby. What if they have trouble concieving and it takes them 10 years to get pregnant. Their stroller will then be out of style and possibly out of safety requirements as well.

Post # 15
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764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@cvbee: No, because when you buy them an upgrade for a night of their honeymoon, pay to have them swim with the dolphins, or purchase them a massage, you’re not actually giving them that.

When you give them cash, you’re giving them cash to do whatever they want to do.

Kinda like the difference in a Visa gift card and a Macy’s gift card.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

My Fiance would never go for this for our registry, but as a wedding goer… I’d be okay with it. I don’t really like shopping and would love the option to just a button and transfer money to my friends as their present. I must admit, a) I know that this is totally lazy of me, and b) I know that most of my guests would not be okay with having this as even a suggestion.

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