(Closed) How do you ladies feel…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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289 posts
Helper bee

In regards to my own situation, we’re happily going with a pretty affordable option, and keeping my ‘dream’ criteria (carat, cut, setting, etc) intact by choosing to go with moissanite. I wasn’t particularly over-the-moon about diamonds to begin with, so I don’t feel like I’m compromising, nor do I expect an “upgrade” in the future. I’m pretty picky about what I wear (and do, and read, and eat, and…okay, I’m a picky chick), and really appreciate that I have the option to request ring characteristics without expecting my SO to go into a financial hole over the purchase.

However, if I happened to be a diamond gal, and it came between waiting for an expensive dream ring and settling for a more afforable option for the time being, I would go with the latter, for sure. Getting married is 110% more important to me than having a flashy peice of jewelry. Of course, we all want a gorgeous ring when we get engaged. However, I feel like once I was settled into marriage and working on a family, the weight on my ring finger wouldn’t really bother me enough to dwell on an upgrade.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

YES. I would take a family ring over something new ANY day. It means a lot more. I wouldn’t even upgrade in the future either to be honest!

If you want to upgrade though, maybe you could somehow include the original family stone?

Post # 6
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600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

You all are gonna think I’m crazy, but I don’t like jewelry other people have worn.  It creeeeeps me out so badly.

However, if it didn’t, I would totally do that!  What’s better than free when you’re starting out?  Plus people will ooh and ahh about how cute it is that you have a family heirloom from HIS side.  I personally think that’s so sweet and more adorable than if it were from your side of the fam.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Thats sort of what we’re doing.  We’re using my Nan’s ring (grandmother) that thru an odd set of circumstances i inherited.  The upgrade wasn’t promised .. .but i have pointed out the anniversary bands!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My SO said he wants to get me something new and make sure it is perfect because he said he doesn’t want to be upgrading at a 5 or 10 anniversary. HOWEVER…I said I would be fine with something smaller or even a family ring (but neither of us have one) because it’s about us committing to each other and not so much a ring (he is really particular about things he gets me which is kind of funny). As beautiful as new rings are, family ones always have stories that make them special. If it was his greatgrandma’s, you may never WANT to upgrade because of the history that comes with it. 🙂

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@playingdaisy:

I would take pretty much any ring! And I would prefer to never upgrade for sentimental reasons. Who knows how I’d feel in the future but that’s how I feel now. 🙂

Post # 10
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3303 posts
Sugar bee

I would take anything and upgrade later- it really isn’t about the ring for me…. I just want the official proposal and engagement.

I am getting a decent ring under 5K and then we are upgrading later on when my SO gets his settlement. My dream ring is a 1- 2 ct ring from Tiffany’s but we don’t have 10K+ to blow right now.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

I would definitely take it (: I think it would be really sweet (and an honour) to get to wear a family ring. I don’t know if I would upgrade it though. I’m super sentimental and I think I would want to keep the same engagement ring throughout my life and maybe have a special anniversary right hand ring later when we could afford it (:

Post # 12
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870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@sugarpea:

ooh I like the idea of an upgraded right hand ring!

Post # 13
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384 posts
Helper bee

absolutely!!  I want to marry my boyfriend, not a ring.  I don’t care if it’s a moissanite, CZ, sapphire, a spec of dust, or the real thing.  I’m not entering into a relationship with a piece of jewelry. 

Do it!!  You’ll be engaged ASAP and that’s the most important thing. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think thats a great idea, why not?

While i wasnt “promised” another ring, I got a family (free) ring, and then we both decided to use the stones from it to make a new ring a few months later, and we are so happy about it!! So why not! Do whatever makes you happy!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

Maybe I’ll change my mind about it later but no, I wouldn’t. I think its weird to use someone else’s ring, however happily married they were. I’d feel like I’m marrying the person who bought the ring and that’s.. weird lol. If my SO couldn’t afford my dream ring, I’d rather have something cheap. 

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