- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Seriously, WTF is wrong with my mother?? Why can’t I learn to let go of all expectations of her? That would certainly ease things.
I know I’ve complained about her before (not coming to my wedding, both weddings in fact). I need to RANT AGAIN.
So we are chatting on the phone and I mention that I hope my family (mom, two sisters and their kids) can make it out to my house next summer for one year anniversary party, or at least meeting of the families. I have enough rooms for all of them. This is not the first time I’ve mentioned this idea. They’ve never met my H’s family! In fact, his parents are timing their next visit to Utah with this party we are talking about.
My mom says, “I don’t know, we’ll have to see!” in her annoying sing songy hesitant voice. WTF? I got miffed right away (normally I keep it in), saying, “Well I surely hope my family can come through for me at least once and come out to our house with a year’s notice to meet my husband’s family. If they do not, I will probably disown all of you.”
Harsh? Maybe, but I am miffed that they all had excuses as to why they couldn’t come to my wedding in Utah and their general attitude about it all (they didn’t come to my first wedding 10 years ago either). She pulled that same shit on me 10 years ago when I told her with 6 months notice about the wedding plans, same reply, “Gee, I have no idea what we’re doing then…”
Then she tries to tell me she TRIED to come visit us this year but we were too busy for her. No she had an anxiety attack and told me couldn’t come out to the wedding, but then later wanted to visit for a vacation. I had to correct her. I said I gave her some dates that left us 4 whole days to play. She said, “Is that all? I might as well forget it.” Then I offered her Thanksgiving to come fly to see us, and she said she doesn’t fly past October.
All I want is for the woman to say, “That sounds lovely, I will certainly do my best to make the trip happen! I know it means a lot to you!” Of course we cannot predict our health, and other situations in one year, but good GOD say something else besides, “I don’t know we’ll have to see!”