(Closed) How do you let go?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

 

Post # 4
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7291 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Loss of trust can be a forever thing if not addressed.

Go to the source and work things out until you can gain confidence, trust again, and also go to some counseling.

Sadly we can’t take things back, but we can change our outlook on how we deal with it!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

We’re in a similar sitch …. had the diamond set in a pave setting from the place we’re moving to, his hometown (diamond is from my gramma’s ring).  We are in LDR and took to a VERY good jeweller local to me, and they refused to resize it cause three diamonds were loose.  Flew back into town …. went to the place we bought the ring and jeweller said I WAS NUTS … the well known jeweler in my big city didn’t know what they were talking about.  resizes and dips it.   two months later 3 … yes THREE of the paves diamonds fell out. I’m beyond pissed about this whole thing… I kinda just want to throw the effing thing at them.

how I get past it … I’m probably going to be like you two … banned for life from the store .  I’ll probably spend my life in the new small town bad mouthing them to  anyone that will listen ………….. but it’s just a ring and I still have the man … and this is just a bump .. and I only just started wedding planning (yeah see my date) i’m sure in the future this is a hiccup. It’s just a ring how we are with each other out shines the ring .

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@AlbanianBride27: okay thanks for the deeper insight.

Whatever it was that turned horribly wrong, know that today is a new day and we look forward to the next day! Wishing , thinking, obsessing, lamenting over things we cannot change will only magnify the event and make our lives even more negative.

If its something that you can do over again, do it again- so you have a fresh memory

Post # 9
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@AlbanianBride27:  If it was in the U.S. you can report them to the better business bureau or your state attorney general. Maybe they have done it before, and you can at least feel like you reported them and have had a chance to register how awful it was with someone “official.”

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

What is there site? or review spot ? Maybe we could write some reviews…..

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Is there a consumer protection agency you can contact about this? You should report this if you could… I’m from an Eastern European country so stuff like this happens there all the time but at least we know about it and protect ourselves… the fact that stuff like that happens in the US is just outrageous. You should try to talk to the director, etc. At least scare them into apologizing…dunno. I’d be pissed too. I’m sorry ๐Ÿ™

Post # 14
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851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you’re in the right mind set in that you just want to move past it.  You will.  I would personally stop talking about it.  Don’t bring it up even if you hear someone tell a similar story.  I have close family members who were ripped off by other close family members (think ponzi scheme).  The way they’ve moved on is just wrote off the fact that they were duped and learned from it.  It still has an affect on their relationship but they realize that the money lost and pain caused is not worth their mental health.  You’re already doing the right thing by realizing the next step!  All the best and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You just have to realize that it happened, it will be ok, and then put it behind you.

Not everyone you do business with will try to pull a fast one on you. It will be ok. Soon you will be married and onto different thing with your life, so don’t let this ruin it! I’ll admit, it is hard for me to move on from things, but you just have to push yourself to and it will happen.

Post # 16
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16191 posts
Honey Beekeeper

That really stinks. But it kind of sounds like you guys found a GREAT solution to the problem. Maybe that’s just because you gave us the short version, though. ๐Ÿ™‚

I’m sorry this happened. I would just focus on the fact that you and your Fiance were able to turn the bad situation into a good one. And now, you’re so close to getting married, and nothing can get in the way of that, even a sleazy jewelry co.

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