- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
As someone previously said, I was an emotional wreck for the first year. Honestly, it was the worst year of my life. I had a hard time convincing myself to do anything but sit by my computer in the hopes that he would sign in to Skype and spend the day with me – this wasn’t possible because he had classes and work, but I was still clinging to the idea that I could have him all day every day. Now that we’ve done another year or so long distance, I’ve figured myself out and it’s gotten a lot better. I make sure that I’m keeping busy all the time and go out with friends or acquaintances to fill gaps in time. I took up an old hobby that I used to have and made sure that I was always working on a project. Things are a million times better now.
To be honest, I think long distance is phenomenal for a relationship. You are forced to actually communicate by talking to each other about problems instead of just putting them off and watching tv or going to bed together. You work out your goals and how things are going to be because all you have is the phone. The communication in my relationship is extremely strong because of this, and I would actually recommend it to a lot of serious relationships that are headed for marriage.
The last thing I can think of is that you absolutely have to be either planning a visit, or actually visiting your partner. My long distance relationship is England-Canada, so it’s certainly not easy, but we make it work so that we see each other at least twice/three times per year for a week or two at a time. It’s not ideal, but we make it work. And being excited about a visit or a trip really makes it a lot easier because you’re looking forward to spending time with your SO, rather than just expecting time together. You’ll do just fine – good luck! 🙂