How do you make friends?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Tell me about it. I had to break up with my bestie last year AND move to a new county. I’m pretty much friendless right now. One thing I never noticed about myself intil DH confirmed is that I can appear unfriendly or avoid smiles and friendly conversation. I’m   shy. So even when at the market I’m making it a point to be more friendly, walk with my head up and smile. Who knows, I might see someone who is close to my age, friendly, and lives in my neighborhood, so I’ll smile next time instead of avoiding eye contact. Best of luck, wish me luck too.

Post # 4
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Honey bee

I’m awful at making friends too. I’m in school, well into my major classes, so I see the same girls over and over again, but I’ve only become close with one. FH and I really want “couple friends” but most everyone our age is either still casually dating or married with kids. We’re smack in the middle, and can’t really relate to either.

Do you have any neighbors your age? Old friends from high school? What about joining a church/temple/synagouge/etc.? A book club? The Zumba class at the gym? 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@AquaGrey8962:  I agree! I’m only 23 so it’s not AS bad making friends in class but I’m more mature for my age & tend to get along better with people older than me so I don’t find too many friends in class. I have a pup so I could probably try to make friends at the dog park or maybe with my neighbors or something if I wanted to but idk, I usually feel a bit uncomfortable. I make friends through work too quite often but since I’m not working now I don’t really have as many friends as I used to. It can be hard!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@mepayne:  I agree with wanting the “couple friends”…it’s really hard to find in your early 20s! (idk how old you are but that’s my experience lol) a lot of my friends are still single and it’s just a bit awkward if it’s me, my SO, & my friend but I don’t like to not invite my SO to come with us because I feel like it’s rude.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

hobby classes! I’m friends with a woman who is 12 years older, met her through yoga classes at the local studio. I don’t have many couple friends, but I party like a single lady anyway 😛

Post # 8
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1583 posts
Bumble bee

@AquaGrey8962:  I have moved a lot since i turned 18 but I find it easy. Just start conversations and then hang out!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yeah, I tried for years.  I just realized I have one BFF in this world and after I married, I spend most of the time with either my family or his.  It’s totally awkward so I stopped trying.  If it happens it happens.  When I moved across the country back to my hometown, I left all the good friends I had.  Making new friends is one thing, but replacing them will never happen I’m afraid :/

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

try hanging out at the same places. like the same coffee shop or neighborhood bar, or yoga studio, cafe, dog park, book store, etc. i’ve worked in bar/restaurants forever and there’s always a network of friends going on there that cool regulars easily get pulled in to. maybe there’s something else going on in your community you wanna be a part of? a co-op? community garden? online ‘meet up’ club? maybe even weddingbee local board. (ps you’re very young at 27!! i’m 28 so you better be. lol)

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

I’m really bad at making friends. I don’t really like any of the people in my university classes (I’m nearing the end now) and I don’t have a job so I can’t make work friends. I’m lucky that my BFF moved to the city last year, but he has a really heavy program and can’t hang out often. He and his gf are our first couple friends though and I’m really excited about it! We need to find more activities though because right now they come over about once a month and we make food and watch funny youtube clips on the TV. I need to learn how to make new friends though.

Post # 12
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Honey bee

@soontobemrsm11:  I’m 20 and FH is 22, so you’re pretty spot on! It’s just that awkward phase. I have one friend from middle/high school who is married with no kids, and I know her DH and my FH would get along wonderfully, but they live in Hawaii. No one else seems to be… on our level. 

Post # 13
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951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Meetup.com is a good option. Find people with similar interest and attend some events. I met a few really nice people this way but did not get any long lasting friendships out of it.

Also try going to yoga or fitness classes, scrapbooking, crafts, any type of hobby thing where there are other women. Maybe there’s a book club in your area that you can join? Enrichment classes such as cooking, photography, etc.?

Post # 14
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655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

The last friend I made was through work.. she served me every day when I went to the post office to send out my works mail.. each time she served me we talked more and more and realised we had so much in common that we just had to be friends (they were actually her words)!! that was in around August 2011 and since then we have become really close.. I love her to bits but apart from her all of my friends are through my SO.. I am friends with his friends wives/girlfriends and I have some from my old work.. I agree with you though making new friends is super awkward!! I hate it!

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