Post # 1
I have virtually no friends in the area that we live in. I have a few friends that I grew up with that I get in touch with every now and then, but they all live at least an hour away. I’ve been out of college about a year now and am realizing that I NEVER meet new people anymore, and I have no idea how to!
I don’t work a “traditional” job (I’m a nanny) and I have very little interaction with anyone other than Darling Husband throughout the week. Darling Husband has a few friends he hangs out with occasionally but they are single so no wives or girlfriends for me to befriend.
It gets really lonely not having ANYONE to hang out with, ever :(.
I feel a slightly silly asking this, but how do you go about making friends and/or meeting new people?
Post # 3
Joining a gym or a small class like yoga or zumba….joining groups at the libary……its hard, but you have to kind of put yourself out there.
Good luck pumpkin! if you were near the chicago area I would invite you to someo f my pampered chef events!
Post # 4
Good question, thanks for asking it! I can’t wait to see responses.
Post # 5
I usually seem to meet friends through work since I work with lots of women and a lot of them are around my age. But I’d you don’t have a traditional job I would suggest joining a fitness class or something. How about a book club?
Post # 6
You’re a nanny so I’m sure you come across many other women when you take kids out to gym, park, activity places, school. Starts with small talk, a compliment, a suggestion, advice…etc. Good luck.
Post # 7
@Miss Sorbet: I mainly meet people at work. I have befriended some of the regulars at our bar and have kinda networked through Fiance and my sister since I moved here from the East Coast a couple years ago. If your friends only live an hour away why can’t you get together? Meet halfway for dinner or coffee so you each only have a 30 minute drive. I wish the friends I grew up with were only an hour away.
Post # 8
Thanks for the suggestions ladies! I have been thinking about taking some classes at the gym, I should probably do that!
@mari328: I’m a nanny to a 2 month old so not a lot of outings yet, but eventually!
@Aure: We definitely do meet up on occasion but we’ve also grown apart quite a bit through the years.
Post # 9
@Miss Sorbet: Hi fellow nanny.. I’m a nanny as well 🙂 and I know what you mean about not meeting anyone at our jobs.. but I’ve ran into other women, (moms) while taking kids out so you could make small talk that way.. I never really tried to pursue the conversation for too long because I’m still in college so that’s where I meet most new people and I still live by my high school friends..
but when it comes to making friends it really is about putting yourself out there, and risking rejection.. there’s this really nice girl that I see at random parties and get togethers, and I’ve always wanted to befriend her because she’s just so sweet to me and she and her bf are the only long term couple my age that I know besides Fiance and I, so I finally gave her my number and told her to txt me.. sounds a little funny when I say it,but now she’s texting me and we’re planning a double date.. so there are other women out there who are probably dying to make friends just like you..
I saw on here people saying to join a class and I think that’s a great idea.. I went to zumba classes a few times and it’s the best place to meet other women.. the ones I went to were 2 times a week so that gives you plenty of times to talk to these other women. it doesn’t even have to be a fitness class, it can just be a class where you know the majority will be women.. such as a cooking class or something like that 🙂 I would definetely go that route!!!
Good luck and hope you make friends soon 🙂 🙂
Post # 10
I stay away from people in the work area. Especially because we spend so much time together to begin with. I’ve learned through much observation that most of the girls I work with (older than I am, may I add) are completely dramatic and look for the drama.
I have no friends now where I live as well. I hate it at times, but I just stick to myself. I’ve put myself out there. I’m a pretty awesome person, but I think people see me as too mature at times. I’m really not sure.
Anyways, I wish I had better advice for you. (hugs)
Post # 11
I went through this a few years ago. All my friends moved away at the same time, and my relationship with my ex ended.
I went out. I went to art gallery openings, museums, theater, Bible studies, took some classes at a city college, joined a gym, joined match.com (met my fiance there a year later!). I did most of it to keep myself busy, but I met some awesome people during that time. I especially bonded with people at school and Bible studies because you’re forced to interact with each other. Through a few friendships, I met even more people. Put yourself out there. In a weird way, it’s a little like dating.