(Closed) How do you make time for you and your SO with school? :)

posted 6 years ago in College
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

     Honestly, I have no freaking clue! Fiance goes to school full time, is working on his thesis, has a research internship, works full time, is the president of an organization, and a member two others. I go to nursing school full time, work part time, am president of a time consuming organization, and am a member of two others. We also both volunteer on political campaigns as well. Plus, we don’t live together.  

      It can be very, very hard, and a lot of the time it can be frustrating; but we make time to see each other almost every day, even if it’s only for 15 minutes. I think the key is that we make a strong effort to see each other, even when it’s hard. Fiance works all weekend, but will stop by my house at 1 or 2 a.m. to put me to bed. Little things like that keep us going. We also try to find things that we like to do together. For instance, we are in an organization together, work on campaigns together, and go to church together.

I think the key is trying to do the things that you have to do, together.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

He picks me up after work every single day (that I don’t have other plans) and we hang out. So even if l’m just sitting on his bed, doing homework, we’re in the same room. We’ll stop to steal kisses every now and then, and we always make time to cuddle and talk before he brings me home at night. It’s not a lot, but it’s better than never seeing him. When I finish my work, we watch movies or TV or get dinner or something.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Foundmymatch:  It’s awful right? I can’t wait till we’re married and live together. It will be so much less stressful. I can’t imagine living that far away from my Fiance (Unless I was long distance) it must be so hard.  

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

@Foundmymatch:  I used to be like that, but I either had to get used to working with him in the room or not see him nearly as much. I figured it out eventually. He gets pretty absorbed in his Xbox and his computer while I’m busy, so I don’t feel bad. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Fiance and I are not currently in school, we spent 5 years of our relationship when either one or both of us were in school. It was really tough, so I know where you’re coming from. We tried to always commit one day a week to seeing each other, usally Friday nights. Often times, it ended up with me falling asleep while we snuggled and watched a movie, but it was our time together and so it was good. It was exhausting trying to make time, but on the few occasions that he and I went more than 2 weeks without seeing each other, it took a toll on us. Remember to prioritze, and schedule time for each other, no matter what it might be! 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah… we barely see eachother and we live together. It sucks, because when I first get home I’m in such a bad mood after fighting traffic, so the short time we spend together can end up in stupid fights for no reason. Ugh.

I am in the second/final year of my Master’s in Social Work, so I have classes, insane amounts of readings, papers, plus my internship which is basically a job three days a week.  Worse, my schedule is light compared to his.  He has school 20 hours a week, works at his school 20 hours a week, and works another job 30 hours a week. 

As far as how to make time, I’m not sure.  We go on date nights when we can, and if he ever gets a weekend off we will try to go on a short mini-vacay. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2019

It can be really hard, but the thing we both try to remember is that even with everything going on we are still each other’s top priority. 

So during the school week, I bust my ass to get as much done as I can so I can have the time to take out one day for ‘us’. We also don’t put any pressure on that day to make big plans. It also helps that we stay in almost constant contact with texts and calls, so then it’s not so bad.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You know, I don’t really know. We both are in school and we both work around 35 hours a week. Our off days rarely fall together and I have to go to class all week where FH only goes for two. Our work doesn’t give us weekends or holidays either (the joys of working retail) so it’s really difficult. 

If FH is off or doesn’t have class, he usually takes care of the housework so I don’t have to. If we both get off early enough, we like to at least cook dinner and eat together. Even if we both had class and we worked that day, we still reserve an hour before bedtime (because we’re both usually getting home around 10) to talk about our day or other things so we still feel connected to each other and that we have time for each other. 

We’re also currently looking at taking a trip to New York after I graduate, so that will be some bonding and away time for us. 

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We have one night completely reserved for date night, with no homework, fantasy sports, or law talk allowed πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

it is so hard! i am in school full tiime,  work fifty hours a  week, and he works full time too. oh and we also have a two year old!! our schedules are CRAZY. i get up at 5 am for work…jjust  as he isgetting home from work.  then i work until 2 and he is at home with lilly all day. so when i get home i have to leave with our baby so he can get somee good sleep. then we try to have dinner as a family everynight right before he leaves for work and i go to school and our daughter to my parents house. dinner is literally the ONLY time we see eachother anymore πŸ™

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We try to have dinner together every night. I know that’s not always possible for all couples, but we live on campus, so even when my Darling Husband has a long day, he’ll come home for dinner and then go back to school. 

Darling Husband is doing a Master’s program  and being a Research Assistant and I’m finishing off my BEd and working two days a week, so I usually wind up with most of the housework.

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