Post # 1
I am not a patient person at the best of times and I think TTC is going to drive me a bit mad. Recently came off BCPs, had a withdrawal bleed but a month on and AF is late. I realise my cycle will probably be messed up for a while but it’s the waiting that is driving me round the bend.
I’m not PG (I’ve done three tests).
So either my cycle is just messed up (probably) or something is wrong and THE WAITING IS DRIVING ME FLIPPING INSANE and if I don’t type this here in shouty caps I may actually scream it.
Once my cycle gets back to normal, once I know everything is fine, I can get on with having fun TTC and not stress out.
But the waiting. Is. Driving. Me. Crazy.
HOW do you get through it?!
Post # 3
@Moomin: This is my first month ttc and i’ve learned it is a lot harder for the impatient people. I got a positive opk on tuesday bd’ed like crazy and now I am DYING to take a pregnancy test.
I would also love some tips on being patient.
Post # 4
@EverAfterBegins: I agree, and for me, the first month off was the hardest! My first period came 34 days later when I went off the pill, and it was a very short period. Your cycle could take awhile to regulate.. Everyone’s different. I’ve been off since the end of August, and I was convinced I was pregnant my first month off.. I had every symptom in the book 🙁 I think it was from the withdrawal of hormones.
I’m now on my 2nd cycle off, on day 26, and wondering when my period will show this month.
I don’t have any advice for being patient, because I’m very impatient. Hang in there and GL!
Post # 5
Glad to know it’s not just me!
AF used to come every 26 days like clockwork, not sure if it’ll snap back like that – right now it’s day 28 which is late for me, if not for anyone else!
Post # 6
How long were you on birth control for? For me, I was on it for almost 10 years (17-28 with a few breaks). For me it was important to remind myself that maybe the cycles I had on birth control were arbitrarily created by the medication, and a longer cycle is just my body getting back to it’s intended cycle that will prepare me for pregnancy.
Post # 7
I’m sorry I know how frustrating it is. I used to be regular before going on BCP (over 10 years ago) when I first got off my 1st cycle was 49 days! Luckily I was charting so I saw that I ovulated on CD33 otherwise that would have driven me nuts not knowing what was happening.
Post # 8
@SapphireSun: ten years with a break here and there. You are right – the “cycle” on BCPs is anything but. The “period” is just a fake one – created by manipulating hormone levels – which they introduded in the 50s so women didn’t freak out over not having periods!
@Snickers95: what does CD33 mean?
If I’m honest, I’d rather not chart. I don’t want to medicalise the whole TTC process right away. I just want to try lots and have fun doing it.
Thanks everyone as it helps to know it’s not just me.
Post # 9
I’ve been at this for 2.5 years and I’m patient because I have no choice. My first cycle off of bc took 4 months and was induced by Provera… my next took 5 months and again was induced.
Moomin – I totally respect your decision. I made the same one when I started. In hindsight because of the issues I’ve ended up dealing with over the years (PCOS, Hashimotos, MTHFR, septum), I wish I’d given in and started charting ealier. My cycles have never been regular though, so for me, charting was really comforting. I could actually see if I’d ovulated or not and when.
Best of luck! I hope your wait is MUCH MUCH shorter then mine.
Post # 10
Thanks. Sorry to hear it’s taking so long for you. I would start charting, if I didn’t think I’d just get super obsessed.
Still no AF. Sigh.
Post # 11
I’m impatient too and we only just started. My cycles were always regular (although light) prior to BC. I just came off after 10 years of being on and I definitely felt ovulation pain yesterday. So we BD lots and I’m going to wait and see if AF comes. I’m fairly sure this won’t be the month but I am so impatient I keep praying it will be.