Post # 1
My wedding is in 8 weeks!!! FI and I don’t live together yet and I’m just trying to figure out how to do everything. I work full time and live 30 minutes from my work. I work 8am-4pm and then 30 min to get back to the town I live in. I’m a workout freak and want to keep up with going to the gmy after i get married and also want to be able to cook my FH meals andcheep a clean house and be a wife. I’m starting college again soon and will be take 1-2 classes at most. How do you fit everything in?? Any suggestions??
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@futuremrsbc: I skip the fitness….
Post # 4
Can you workout at home sometimes? When I go to the gym I feel like it ends up taking so much more time rather than when I just do it at home. Maybe just go to the gym on the nights you dont have class and work out at home on the days you go to school.
Post # 5
@futuremrsbc: Being a wife doesnt have to mean you do all the cooking and cleaning on your own.
We both work full time, are in school, and I go to the gym 5 times a week. We do most cleaning on the weekend. We cook big batches of food so we have leftovers for lunch. We tackle things together and it all gets done.
Post # 6
Alternate days of cooking dinner and cleaning the house with your spouse.
Post # 7
@futuremrsbc: Work out together, so you get to spend time together and stay fit…
I attempted to do wedding planning, work, school, and fitness, and let’s just say it was no picnic. We were already living together, and some days the house did not look great… but I don’t stress about that, and my SO is very helpful and can cook and clean. We take turns making one another dinner. While I was in school, he cooked a lot more than I did.
Post # 8
We split up the houseold chores and I try and get my workouts in mostly in the mornings, after he’s left for work and before I have to go to work. I graduated 3 years ago so I don’t have to worry about the school part, lol.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@Bostongrl25: +1. Split up the chores so you’re both taking care of the house. My husband does about 95% of the cooking and cleans the kitchen – I do the laundry and most of the other cleaning. We share doing errands, etc.
Post # 11
I don’t have an answer but I want to share this.
When I was in college, I was always busy. There was a semester I took 18 credits, worked 2 jobs, pledged a fraternity, worked backstage on 2 semesters, all the while maintaining a relationship and a social life.
Looking back, that was just the norm, I was always busy, but it was how it was. Now? I don’t know how I did it.
I think if you just go into it seeing it as your only option, it’ll be easy. If you try to plan to balance everything, it’ll only give you a headache.
Post # 12
FI and I cook together then we go for runs or to the gym or do P90X together. It’s a really fun bonding experience. We also run 5ks together. We’re both students and work full time.
Post # 13
If you both work full time, it isn’t only your job to clean the house and cook. Take turns.
Post # 14
My husband and I also work out together after work. It’s a nice way to unwind together.
Post # 15
@futuremrsbc: Can you split some of the household duties? I cook – it’s my main hobby, so I put a lot of time into it – but I hate to clean more than anything else in the world, so he cleans.
Also, perhaps you could find a gym close to your work, so you could just drop in before heading home rather than making a dedicated trip?
Post # 16
@mchitt329: LOL. me too….meeeee tooo…. haha
Seriously though, I am struggling with this too. How can i balance being a wife and being at work 9+ hours a day. I WANT to cook and keep our house clean, and stay on top of the laundry, and not be grouchy when I get home from work but truly, it is A LOT of pressure. I know some women who seem to just be able to do it all, but that isn’t me. It makes me feel guilty a lot of the time. I know it’s just pressure that I put on myself, DH is so sweet and never makes me feel like I’m not meeting up to his expectations, I know he doens’t really care that there are dirty dishes and he’ll help out. It does just make me sad sometimes that I’m not meeting MY OWN expectations as a wife…..
rant over. sorry.