Post # 1
I am a 26 year old with no kids and I am wondering how ladies meet each other usually?
Seriously the only friends I have are from way back at school or work, or people I know through the Fiance, and I feel like I would like to branch out a bit.
I am really quite shy usually and so that makes it even more difficult.
I have joined a group on meetup but there are 500 members and I am worried that I will go to meet ups and never see the same person twice?
I just really feel like I am growing out of my current friends and there are not too many of them anyhows.
Where do you know your good friends from? 🙂
Post # 3
The most recent friends I have made are through cross fit and through my volunteer work.
Is there something you enjoy you could volunteer doing? Or take a class that interests you? Meeting people this way is good because you know you have something in common.
Post # 4
I feel the same way. I find it hard to make friends. I have a few good friends but recently everyone has started moving away, which is great for vactioning, but bad for grabbing coffee. I am no help obviously, but hope someone gives us a good answer.
Post # 5
I’m interested to read the replies to this because I’m in the same boat, all my friends are from school, and I’ve grown out of most of them, plus I’ve just moved to a new town 160km (100mi) from where I grew up, and I don’t know anyone here.
Post # 6
Oh I hope someone can help my fiance and I are both in that same boat. We literally know no one where we are currently living. I have friends from home but they all still live at their parents houses in my hometown.
Post # 7
This is a great question! I am the same way, and I just moved to FI’s town a few months ago. I’ve made friends with the wives of some of his friends and I’m volunteering, so I’m hoping something will come of that.
Post # 8
Meetups are a good start, you also might check out any free dance classes through local dance clubs, book groups, free community college classes, photography groups, or any other groups that might interest you. I am sure that if you google your interests in your local area that you will be able to find a group for it. You also might try to meet up with any Bees in your area, might be a great person to meet for coffee.
Post # 9
I was in that boat once, and I made an amazing group of friends through craigslist! I know it sounds dangerous and crazy but it really isn’t because you’re in control of who you respond to and meet and how you meet. I only did it because my mom suggested it so I told her if something bad happened to me, it would be on her conscience! Hah. Anyways, I posted an ad on the “strictly platonic,” “w4w” (women for women) section with a bit about me, why I was looking for friends, what I hoped for, and what type of friend I was wanting. I got quite a few emails, about 2 were from plum crazy people, 1 was from a nice person but not my style, and then a couple were people who I actually met. 1 person led me to their friend group, and I ended up having a blast hanging out with all of them!
The benefit of this is it’s pretty passive which can be a plus for shy people, and you can decide where, when, and how you meet people (I always met people in a public place like Subway or Panera). You can also talk a lot on e-mail before you meet too, which is great.
Post # 10
Seriously… that’s all I got.
Post # 11
I’m interesting in hearing these answers also. But what are these ‘meetups?’
Post # 12
@Beluga: you beat me to it this time.
I had a ton of trouble making friends after I graduated college before I started playing ultimate frisbee.
Post # 13
Thanks everyone for your advice!
I found a group who does ultimate frisbee near me and they are having a learn to play on April 11th so I am going to go to that! I am very excited 🙂
I like the idea of an amature photography group too, so I might see if I can find a nice group close by.
@LaurenK0105: I am in Brisbane, Australia so I dont think we have craigslist over here, otherwise that would be a great idea too.
@rachaelrobin: have a look at meetup.com, I joined a group called Ladies Chill Out and Chatter, and am going to my first meetup on Sunday, but since there are 500 members I am worried I might meet people I like but not see them again for a couple of months. I will update on Sunday night about how it went!
I have volenteered at Lifeline (a not for profit second hand store chain) nearby to my home, but a lot of the other “volenteers” were actually doing community service and so didnt really want to be there.
I might have a look at other palces I could volenteer close by though too.
Post # 14
@LessIsMoore: :-O !! That site is awesome! Wow I had never heard of it before, and there are lots of groups here for me to check out! Fiance and I are also having a hard time making new friends as most of ours have moved off island. But we will totally give this a try! I think you should too. Even if you only actually get to talk to one or two of the hundreds of people there, you could keep in contact with them and meet up elsewhere, ya know?
Post # 15
I volunteered at the animal shelter (then ended up getting a job there for a while!) and met a ton of great people. What do you really love? I’m lucky that I’m in grad school so I can meet some people who love reading and who are in my classes, but if I wasn’t, I think I’d try meeting people in yoga classes or outdoorsy groups! Join a club or sport or volunteer group and you’ll get to know people quickly! Eventually you’ll end up going out for beers or snacks afterwards and tada!
Also don’t get discouraged if you don’t make friends at first– it’ll take a little while!
Post # 16
@LessIsMoore: Great!! Thanks, I will definetly look into it!