(Closed) How do you meet new friends?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee

The most recent friends I have made are through cross fit and through my volunteer work.

Is there something you enjoy you could volunteer doing? Or take a class that interests you?  Meeting people this way is good because you know you have something in common.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I feel the same way. I find it hard to make friends. I have a few good friends but recently everyone has started moving away, which is great for vactioning, but bad for grabbing coffee. I am no help obviously, but hope someone gives us a good answer.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m interested to read the replies to this because I’m in the same boat, all my friends are from school, and I’ve grown out of most of them, plus I’ve just moved to a new town 160km (100mi) from where I grew up, and I don’t know anyone here.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Oh I hope someone can help my fiance and I are both in that same boat.  We literally know no one where we are currently living.  I have friends from home but they all still live at their parents houses in my hometown.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

This is a great question! I am the same way, and I just moved to FI’s town a few months ago. I’ve made friends with the wives of some of his friends and I’m volunteering, so I’m hoping something will come of that.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Meetups are a good start, you also might check out any free dance classes through local dance clubs, book groups, free community college classes, photography groups, or any other groups that might interest you.  I am sure that if you google your interests in your local area that you will be able to find a group for it.  You also might try to meet up with any Bees in your area, might be a great person to meet for coffee.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

I was in that boat once, and I made an amazing group of friends through craigslist!  I know it sounds dangerous and crazy but it really isn’t because you’re in control of who you respond to and meet and how you meet.  I only did it because my mom suggested it so I told her if something bad happened to me, it would be on her conscience! Hah.  Anyways, I posted an ad on the “strictly platonic,” “w4w” (women for women) section with a bit about me, why I was looking for friends, what I hoped for, and what type of friend I was wanting.  I got quite a few emails, about 2 were from plum crazy people, 1 was from a nice person but not my style, and then a couple were people who I actually met.  1 person led me to their friend group, and I ended up having a blast hanging out with all of them!

The benefit of this is it’s pretty passive which can be a plus for shy people, and you can decide where, when, and how you meet people (I always met people in a public place like Subway or Panera).  You can also talk a lot on e-mail before you meet too, which is great. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ultimate frisbee.

 

Seriously… that’s all I got.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m interesting in hearing these answers also.  But what are these ‘meetups?’

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Beluga: you beat me to it this time.

I had a ton of trouble making friends after I graduated college before I started playing ultimate frisbee. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@LessIsMoore: :-O !! That site is awesome! Wow I had never heard of it before, and there are lots of groups here for me to check out! Fiance and I are also having a hard time making new friends as most of ours have moved off island. But we will totally give this a try! I think you should too. Even if you only actually get to talk to one or two of the hundreds of people there, you could keep in contact with them and meet up elsewhere, ya know?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I volunteered at the animal shelter (then ended up getting a job there for a while!) and met a ton of great people.  What do you really love? I’m lucky that I’m in grad school so I can meet some people who love reading and who are in my classes, but if I wasn’t, I think I’d try meeting people in yoga classes or outdoorsy groups! Join a club or sport or volunteer group and you’ll get to know people quickly! Eventually you’ll end up going out for beers or snacks afterwards and tada!

Also don’t get discouraged if you don’t make friends at first– it’ll take a little while!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@LessIsMoore: Great!! Thanks, I will definetly look into it!

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