Post # 17
Oh, I’m so sorry to hear about your dog! I was in your shoes a few years ago — the beloved family dog became too sick and had to be put down. I didn’t even go outside in the back yard for a while afterwards, because I knew it would be too painful to be see her little paw prints still in the dirt.
My parents got a second dog, a few months after the first passed. I remember looking at this squirrely little puppy in front of me and being so happy to have her, but also feeling a bit lonesome for my mellow older dog. However, as I spent more time with the new puppy and watched her grow and explore her world (and get into mischief), I eventually felt like I WAS “ready” for the new dog.
So, in short, don’t discount getting a new dog just because you don’t feel ready. Honestly, I don’t think I “feel” ready for a lot of things, but I’m also so glad we got the new dog. She helped me get over the sadness about the first dog, and while I’ll always cherish the memories of the dog I grew up with, I’ve grown to thoroughly love the engergetic little rascal we have now.
I hope this helps!
Post # 18
@wideeyes: It does help, actually, thank you. You have a point about how there’s a lot of things in life we don’t feel “ready” for but do anyway. Maybe we’ll never actually be ready until we go ahead and do it.
Post # 19
I’d also like to thank everybody and extend my condolences on all of your losses. A lot of us have lost beloved pets and know how much it hurts. Thank you all for your sympathy and your stories.
Post # 20
In my opinion we only get 1 maybe two “heart dogs” in our life, and it sounds like amber was yours. A heart dog is a dog like no other, one that just wiggles its way into your heart, and that loves you more then anything. It’s a special connection,and it doesn’t happen with every pet.
If you got another dog, it might not be a “heart dog”, but that doesn’t mean you won’t love it, and learn to have a fantastic relationship with it. It’ll be different then your relationship with amber, and that’s something you have to come to terms with before you bring a dog home, but it could still be wonderful.
Post # 21
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
Dont say never to bonding with animals. I’ve bonded with several cats like that. I think you just need to choose slowly and be the person who chooses. I picked my newest cat last august and I knew instantly by a photo that I wanted him. I actually was worried someone else would get him before me. I wasnt planning on adopting for another 2 months but I just knew. When I went to meet him I knew too, the agency did as well because he actually let me pet him he hid from everyone else. I have a great bond with him, and I had the same with my first kitty, and another that had a horrible accident several years back. The important thing was I chose and let the animals choose me too. I have a good number of friends but I dont truly bond with a lot of people. Having an animal companion is really important for me and I handle my own emotions, and physical pain a lot better with one around.
Post # 22
@FortiesFlare: Yes, I have an uncle who said something along these exact lines (even though “heart dog” was not the term he used) and you’re both right. You’re also right that I will need to come to terms with the fact that what I had with Amber was rare and special and I will never have that again with any other dog, but maybe I could still have something that is nonetheless wonderful.
Post # 23
@dewingedpixie: The idea of letting the animal choose me as well is a message that is definitely resonating in a lot of these posts. I will definitely keep this advice in mind. 🙂 Thank you.