(Closed) How do you nicely say “B***H I HATE YOU AND YOU ARE NOT INVITED!”

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Depends?

Do you want lots of pointless drama or not?

If yes, refer at length to her tendency to be mean.  If no, just stick with, “We’re sorry we couldn’t include everyone,” and leave it at that.  Repeat ad nauseum.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I can’t really answer until I know this…Is her husband invited?

ETA: I apparently can’t read and didn’t see that it was the bachelorette party and not the wedding.

I’d just ignore her and tell your Maid/Matron of Honor to do the same.  You should only have people there who you want there, otherwise it won’t be a fun time for you!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You’re talking JUST about the bachelorette party, right?  She’s invited to the wedding?

I agree with teaadntoast – keep it simple, “Sorry, we’re having a really small get-together and have limited seating.  We hope you can still share in our big day.”  (even if you don’t mean it).

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Um, the fact she knows your Maid/Matron of Honor enough to ‘hound’ her means they are in communication by themselves… which means I really don’t think she is only interacting with you because she is connected to your FI’s friend’s husband.  It all depends.. is her husband a groomsman?  Does she hang out with your circle of friends a lot and come with her husband to things?  You don’t have to invite her, but it’ll probably cause friction with your future husband and his friend.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t get why you just don’t call her and just tell her.  Blurt it all out, i don’t like you i never will you irritate the hell out of me and i don’t want you there. Then hang up… quickly then turn off your phone.  It will blow over sooner or later. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Tell her only your friends are invited.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@mrskisstobe: I hope after she threatened to kill their daughter that this woman is seeking help. 

Along the lines of your question, You and your Maid/Matron of Honor just need to say “sorry, you are not included.” It doesn’t matter if your Maid/Matron of Honor is the nicest woman in the world, no means no. She doesn’t need any reasoning or any other information other than she will not be included. Who cares if her husband is involved in other things, that has nothing to do with your relationship with her. Your Fiance needs to say sorry if her husband contacts him to get her on the list. A bachelorette party consists of the bride’s good friends and its perfectly reasonable to tell her that you are keeping it small. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

Is this the one with the rainboots? I loved your thread, read it to Fiance too! Just tell her you are keeping it intimate!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’d just say that it is limited to family and the bridesmaids. That way, she has no recourse to try to make her point since she doesn’t fall into either classification.

 

Good luck!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Uh, okay, did you just call her the ‘S’ word?

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

she threatened to kill their 10month old daughter

@mrskisstobe: Then I DEFINITELY wouldn’t want her anywhere near me. 

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