(Closed) How do you notinvite someone to your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Yikes!  That’s tricky!  Can you invite them ALL post-dinner for a cocktail or two and cake?  That way, nobody will feel bad that they weren’t invited at all?  One of my friends did that.  He worked in a company with around 25 people and didn’t want to put anyone off by not inviting them all, so he just invited everyone for cocktails after dinner.   

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

You can not invite them by not sending them an invitation. 🙂

Mail invitations to the people you’d like to invite, and don’t bring up the wedding or elaborate on your plans with the book club. You may hurt some people’s feelings, but that tends to happen when you invite some people in a group but not all of them.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

It has potential to be awkward and feelings will be hurt, but you just remain polite and respectful.  You could also repeat the mantra of you are only having a small wedding, yadda yadda yadda.  And, hopefully the women you do invite are respectful enough to not rub it in the faces of the one’s that aren’t invited (by not mentioning it, etc.)

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree with Mrs. Spaniel.  Just be tactful and hope that those women you do invite will do the same.  Definitely the most frustrating thing about wedding planning imo is the guest list!

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