(Closed) How do you plan and have a wedding when you are a shy introvert?

posted 4 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
7564 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

What about a brunch or lunch wedding? You could have an intimate wedding, feed everyone, then send them on their ways! 

Post # 4
11274 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

First of all, you’ll find there is so little time on your wedding day that there will be no time for you or anyone else to be bored. By the time your ceremony is finished, and while you’re having pictures taken, your hors d’oeuvres hour will begin. Quickly following that will be introductions, the first dance, toasts, speeches, the dances with your parents, the cake cutting, dancing, etc. It’s a sea of activity that primarily is centered on you and your DH having to always be somewhere doing something. If your wedding is anything like mine, you won’t even have the opportunity to talk to your guests, so I wouldn’t worry about being shy. Pretty much the only people with whom you will be interacting are each other, your bridal party, your parents, and your photographer/videographer and venue coordinator.

Definitely invite your friends. They love you and will want to be there to witness this very special day. I’ve been to weddings alone and weddings where I didn’t know a lot of people. Most of the time, there was always something to be watching or doing (eating, taking picures, dancing.) Don’t worry. It will all be fine for you and your guests! 🙂

Post # 6
11274 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009


Well, what you have planned sounds lovely to me (and delicious, by the way!) and not at all boring — and I am over 40. 🙂 I’m not sure why couples feel a need to “entertain” their guests beyond providing delicious food and beverages, music, and the opportunity to share a very special day in your lives with you. I think you may be over-thinking this.

Post # 8
2687 posts
Sugar bee

@MimiLovesHorror:  I’ve been going through a really similar dilemma too.  FI and I are not really partiers, so we’re concerned that our wedding will lack the fun party element.  I’m not really into dancing, so my idea has been to put together other games and activities for guests, such as cornhole, jenga, and other fun icebreaker games.  Look into a wedding MC – their primary job is to keep the reception flowing (announcing the wedding party, announcing when dinner is served, etc.), but they can have a secondary role to keep the party going by getting people on the dancefloor, playing games, and just socializing with the guests.

There are also small things you can do to encourage people to socialize, such as having a buffet style dinner, doing icebreaker games, and having fewer but larger tables.  

Post # 10
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I went to a wedding like this, and it was a blast.  Granted, most of the tables were relatives, and there was just one table with the friends and the rabbi!  The thing is, people spend most of their time just talking to the other people at their table anyway, so I don’t think your friends will even notice or mind.  It’s ok if they don’t know each other either.  They will all be seated together and will get to know each other by the end of the night.  It’s really fine!

I am not thrilled about all the attention either, and I’ve had to really put my foot down a couple times because some people just can’t get that through their heads.  We’ll see.  I’m hoping it’s not too bad.

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