Post # 1
We’ve been engaged for 3 weeks now and since we’re getting married out of the country (Mexico) I know I need to get my ass in gear and start planning.
What we’ve done so far:
Decided on the place: Playa Del Carmen (yay!)
Preliminary guest list
Decided on a month: November 2013
Ceremony: He is a cradle catholic and REALLY wants to be married in the church
Decided on a non traditional reception, taking everyone out for a really nice dinner after the ceremony and then we’ll hit a club or two
Oh and I totally admit I have a wedding dress appointment on 11/24. I couldn’t help myself : )
So I think we have a good feel for our overall vision. I have a few questions though:
For Catholic bees- did any of you have a destination wedding and get married at the church? How on earth did you figure out what the wedding date would be that far in advance? We want to send our STD’s by January at the latest
For everyone else- after you have your vision…Now what? I’m feeling a bit lost and I don’t know where to start.
Post # 3
as far as the whole Catholic thing… I would get in touch with the Church ASAP and figure all that out – it takes a long time and there are certain procedures to follow…
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
You need to contact the church you want to get married in, Catholics have a list of pre-wedding requirements; some even require a minimum of religious marital counceling before they’ll let you get married in the church since it’s more than a ceremony to them, it’s a sacriment (are you Catholic? that will make a HUGE difference). Then, once you have an idea of what that will require, you can plan everything else around it. Also, you can’t pick a date until you know the church’s calendar. So definitely call them ASAP.
Once you know the date, send out Save-The-Date Cards ASAP since (I’m assumiung) it’s a destination wedding for at least 1/2 your guests.
Post # 5
@Penelopeee: Hey!! Im having a catholic wedding in playa del carmen in March. Its for a mixed marriage (as im christian but not catholic and fi is catholic) but is essentially the same except possibly without a full mass
First things first, are you interested in one of the two churches or having a wedding at one of the resorts with a catholic chapel?
how many people?
Spanish or English?
are you catholic too? with all sacraments?(so i know which paperwork to mention)
edit – the paperwork isnt that complex, honestly. and with a year to go, youre fine.
Post # 6
edit – heres a photographers blog with some photos from catholic weddings (resorts and chapels) in playa
best destination wedding is great for destination wedding specific stuff. check out this threads
Post # 7
I am a baptized christian but not catholic so we will also have a mixed marriage. We would love to get married at one of the churches.
We will have less than 30 guests and hopefully in English.
I am excited to “meet” someone else in the same situation!
Post # 8
My wedding is a little bit complicated as there are extra forms since he is mexican and im english. but a lot should be the same:
in Playa del carmen the couple normally have to contact the church directly and can’t go through a wedding planner (even if you plan to have one for everything else). this is because the churches got cross that wedding planners were inflating the prices so effectively making money from couples having church services. So all documents will go through the church where you live, directly to the church over there
Mixed marriages need:
– basic forms you fill it at local church, giving your info, dates, saying who will your church witnesses be – 4 of them
– permission from the bishop for your fi to marry a non-catholic and have a mixed marriage. Permission from the local priest to have the wedding elsewhere
– a new copy of both of your baptism certificates.
– i needed an apostilled birth certificate as i live abroad, but i assume your local chuch will just need a recent copy of it
– the pre-marriage classes (normally takes a weekend)
– a paper from the catholic church for both of you saying youve never been married before. (i live in a different part of mexico and had to actually fly back to london, to a catholic church ive never entered before for this paper. In England, this then has to be taken to a solicitor to be notarised. May be different in US)
Im in contact with father bernard quinn who can do bilingual/english services. I think he is attached to Nuestra Senora del Carmen. im havign mine at xcaret which doesnt come with a priest or have normal mass so im trying to find a priest to come for our wedding (our local one was coming with us but just dropped out). As i understand it there are maybe 2 in the area that can do weddings in english
Post # 9
ooh and this is apparently a list of all the churches in the area
* Playa del Carmen: Chapel of Nuestra Señora del Carmen on the Caribbean Sea(air conditioned)* Playa del Carmen: Nuestra Señora del Carmen -Downtown* Playa del Carmen: Nuestra Señora de Fatima – Ejido* Playa del Carmen: Nuestra Señora de Guadalupe – Colosio* Puerto Aventuras: Nuestra Señora de Guadalupe
Capilla de Nuestra Señora del Carmen, the chapel is pretty central and quite small
Post # 10
Wow! Thank you for all the information! That’s VERY helpful. Are you working with a wedding coordinator?
And thank you to everyone that responded. We have an appointment at our church next week.
Post # 11
@Penelopeee: i sorted out my venue and most of the details and then panicked and thought i needed one, so i am using one. but honestly, i think its pretty doable by yourself. costs there for wedding planners range from about 1500-2000 dollars so its not cheap!