(Closed) How do you please in laws but get what you want?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Can you afford to pay for Dad?  Maybe as a gift to Fiance you can pay for his Dad.

or have two weddings.  One at home with Fiance parents and people you may want to have and then have the Wedding you want in Hawaii.

We did this – we had one here at home because some family members who I adore could not travel and we told them this is for them and not to tell anyone.  We fly out in 5 weeks what will actually be a commitment ceremony but as far as our guest and other family members know is our wedding.

I was happy cos my family I adore got to see me married and Fiance happy he is getting destination wedding.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

You can’t. If his dad previously committed then do you marriage means you both become your own family unit, so you become his priority and he becomes yours, everyone else is secondary (with the exception of your children if you have any and they are young). You both made a decision and had a dream together, see it through hdal dad may come around otherwise have an AHR or have a civil cerimony with dad at city hall then leave for you wedding. Don’t start your marriage letting everyone else dictate the biggest day of your life, you will miss i your dream, I did and now 14 years later I still do so we are now finally having my wedding (renewal) 

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