Post # 1
Perfect wedding in Hawaii…on the beach for the ceremony and reception at my sis in laws home. Small. Intimate. Fun. And a honeymoon.
This is what we planned and fiance wants dad to be best man. He said yes before we told everyone of these plans. Now his dad has changed his mind (he says because of work but we think something else)…..
What to do? He wants his dad there (understandably so) but this is what we want….I don’t want to argue with my fiance about it because it’s not his fault but getting so frustrated. I am afraid I will have to get married at home and have a wedding that I don’t want.
Post # 3
Can you afford to pay for Dad? Maybe as a gift to Fiance you can pay for his Dad.
or have two weddings. One at home with Fiance parents and people you may want to have and then have the Wedding you want in Hawaii.
We did this – we had one here at home because some family members who I adore could not travel and we told them this is for them and not to tell anyone. We fly out in 5 weeks what will actually be a commitment ceremony but as far as our guest and other family members know is our wedding.
I was happy cos my family I adore got to see me married and Fiance happy he is getting destination wedding.
Post # 4
@ttrewick: We actually did offer to pay for his entire trip from the very beginning and have a big celebration when we came back home. We decided to go ahead with our Hawaii plans regardless and now it looks like Father-In-Law is slowly changing his mind. 😉
Post # 5
You can’t. If his dad previously committed then do you marriage means you both become your own family unit, so you become his priority and he becomes yours, everyone else is secondary (with the exception of your children if you have any and they are young). You both made a decision and had a dream together, see it through hdal dad may come around otherwise have an AHR or have a civil cerimony with dad at city hall then leave for you wedding. Don’t start your marriage letting everyone else dictate the biggest day of your life, you will miss i your dream, I did and now 14 years later I still do so we are now finally having my wedding (renewal)