(Closed) How do you really feel about cash wedding registries?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you have a cash registry for your wedding?
    Yes! : (83 votes)
    30 %
    No! : (196 votes)
    70 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    11356 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    @starlight1222:  I honestly would not like this. I do not even like honeyfunds. These types of registries definitely can be off-putting to some guests.   

    My Darling Husband and I were both in our mid-to-late 40s when we married (his second marriage and my first), and, between the two of us, we also already had most of what we needed. However, I still decided to register for another set of china in a different pattern, some beautiful pieces of crystal, some new table linens, a couple of sets of sheets, some new towels, and some small kitchen appliances and gadgets that I didn’t have. 

    Despite our having had traditional registries for household items in a variety of price ranges at several stores, some of our guests still chose to give us cash, and we certainly did not object. 🙂

    Post # 4
    Member
    65 posts
    Worker bee

    I think they’re gross and tacky.  I also don’t like them because the website takes a cut.  Just don’t register – people will get the hint!  If they weren’t going to give you cash anyway, they’re not going to use a cash registry.

    Post # 5
    Member
    6825 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Personally I dislike them and would even turn down a wedding if someone had one.

    Post # 6
    Member
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee

    Don’t do it.

    There are bound to be some of your guests who are very disgruntled with this.  And I see no reason to risk alienating your guests.  A registy isn’t meant to be a master wish list.  It is meant to help you and your guests to manage things like colour schemes, sizes of linnens, what pieces are missing from your crockery and china collections.  To help guide guests, not demand something specific.

    Everyone likes cash, there is no reason to register for it.  It doesn’t come in different colours (well in Canada it does) that don’t match your decor, or is something that you can’t have multiples of.

    No one needs 2 toasters, but who doesn’t love 2 fifties?

    If you don’t want physical gifts then don’t register (though I find it hard to believe that there is nothing in your place that doesn’t need replacing, like towels, sheets, dish cloths etc).  But to register for cash is redundant, and will irritate some guests, so to me it’s not worth it.

    If you don’t register most people will give you cash anyways.

    Post # 7
    Member
    635 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’d be gifting you monogrammed his and hers hand towels in response to a cash registry.

    Post # 8
    Member
    790 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @fry:  If they weren’t going to give you cash anyway, they’re not going to use a cash registry.

    Exactly. I do not even understand why they exist (except to make money for the website that runs the registry). No one needs a registry to give you cash. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    12 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think it’s a cultural thing.  Where I am from we do not do registries.  We only give cash as wedding gifts.  That is what I did when I got married (and it was optional), because we already had what we needed for our appartment.  I think you should consult it with your family and friends and ask them what they’d think and what they’d prefer.  I personally hate having to go through a wedding registry trying to get the couple a gift.  I much rather give them money and have them to whatever they want with it.  I’ve gotten heat about that when I moved here (US).  People made me feel ridiculous and guilty about that, but hey, that is what I am accostumed to.  In the end we got 5k+, which is what we needed to help pay for all the wedding expenses (we paid for own wedding), etc…

    Here’s a good article by SmartyPig:
    http://blog.smartypig.com/read/skip-the-registry/ 

    Post # 10
    Member
    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    I don’t understand the need to register for cash…

    Post # 11
    Member
    130 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We just didn’t register. My Fiance and I already live together and we also don’t need anything for our home. I don’t like the idea of a cash only registry, but I have seen several people register their honeymoon, which I don’t think is that bad.

    Post # 13
    Member
    625 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    A friend of mind registered for honeymoon stuff, and I thought it was really sweet. I think it’s better that way then just asking for money… but then again, I never really got offended by cash registries to begin with. A lot of people are against them… I’m not entirely sure why.

    But I’ll go ahead and answer for the next X amount of people below me: No, no, no, no, no. A lot of the Bees are pretty against them :p

     

    Post # 14
    Member
    911 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

    Ok, I voted “no”, but now I feel like I should clarify.  I personally have no problem with a honeymoon registry, I feel like those are so common these days. And I feel like people know that they are contributing to an experience, so it feels like you are actually buying something rather than just giving cash.

    We have an alternative registry (in addition to Crate & Barrel) at WeddingFutures, which is a registry for stocks. It’s pretty cool. I’m not sure if anyone will use it, but we have it there as an option. 

    A registry that just asks for cash seems…tacky. At least disguise it as something else. 🙂

    Post # 15
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    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would maybe register for a few things because the older crowd (Grandma) might want to get you something useful for your new life.  Even if it’s just new curtains, table linens, a few decorative items, and a new food processor.  Younger people are more likely to give cash I think.  

    Post # 16
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    17 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Girl please! I’m doing this at my wedding saturday and dont feel bad about it at all! For ppl to call it classless and tacky they really need to grow up. Why waste time going to the store picking stuff you dont need, won’t use or already have. At the end of the day its your wedding so do as you please. I just hate this whole topic on this board because some of these bee’s really do the most!

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