(Closed) How do you really feel about Trash the Dress???

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Would you do a Trash the Dress??
    No way! I could never do that to my dress : (230 votes)
    61 %
    Heck yes! its something unique and beautiful : (86 votes)
    23 %
    Maybe.... : (58 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
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    964 posts
    Busy bee

    It depends how much your dress cost.  I have read alot of bees get cheap replicas for this.

    Post # 4
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    8362 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Nope- if the dress means so little to you that you are willing to ruin it then why not do something like donating it?

    I also think that most trash the dress photos are really not that- very few brides actually trash their dress most just drag it through a bit of dirt! I don’t know but I personally find it a bit excessive and a little bit OMG look at me ish but I think it is also a cultural thing because Americans seem to be a bit more obsessed with photographing everything. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    790 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think it’s a silly trend.

    Post # 6
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    3947 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @Eglantine:  Agreed.

    If you don’t care about your dress that much you should donate it to someone who can’t afford a dress.

    Post # 7
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    2281 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it’s decadent waste. I live in an area that has a lot of people struggling financially, who would treasure a lovely wedding dress, and not destroy it. If you don’t want your dress anymore, donate it to Goodwill, or a charity shop.

    No one around here does TTD, because we have an amazing charity shop, Church Street Bridal, whose proceeds go to the YWCA. The YWCA here offers housing and counseling for women who have no where else to go. So, you can destroy your dress, or you can help to save another woman’s life.

    Let me urge anyone on this thread considering a TTD to instead donate their gown to Church Street Bridal, or somewhere similar. You can ship it to them! 

    http://www.ywca.org/site/pp.asp?c=mkI1L6MPJvE&b=919555

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo

    well it’s certainly not unique, and i don’t see anything beautiful about looking like a wet dog in a big white mess of dress.

    Personally I think it’s tacky, and a crying shame to ruin the the most expensive dress you’ve ever worn. There are so many things you could do with it instead: sew it into a baptism dress for your children, use the fabric for something meaningful yet useful like a quilt, donate it, save it for your daughter’s wedding, sell it at a ridiculous discount for brides who can’t afford the real deal. etc.  

    Trashing the dress is just what it is – trashy. 

    Post # 9
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    478 posts
    Helper bee

    I think it’s fine.  You paid for it, you can do whatever you like with it.  I guess in a sense it’s a “waste”, but it’s also a waste to spend so much money on a dress for a single day anyway.  The whole thing is “wasteful” in a sense, and if people are so concerned with helping those struggling, I’m sure they could cut their wedding dress budget in half, get something from J Crew, and donate the leftover money to something truly useful, like food for people who are hungry instead of a luxurious dress nobody *needs*. 

    It’s not something I plan on doing because I can’t afford another photo shoot.  I’ll try to sell it and if I can’t get a few hundred, I’ll probably just donate it.  But some of the photos are beautiful, like with the bride at the beach or on a horse or whatnot. It’s quite pretty, and in the sense that those photos are valuable to the person, it’s no more wasteful than any other thing people are here spending thousands of dollars on.  And no more wasteful than it sitting in someone’s closet unused for 20 years.  If someone can get value from looking at it in a closet and not being worn, why can’t there be value in looking at artistic pictures of you in it?

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It makes me cringe – the amount of work that goes in to some of those dresses (YES – even the “cheap replicas” are made by someone – and probably someone who isn’t making very much money)… and the number of women who can’t afford dresses… to do that just for a photo session screams “look at me!!!!”  And its certainly not unique anymore either.

    If someone wants to roll around in dirt and mud in a dress, thats certainly their perogative – but why not a 20 dollar white summer dress, and not something another girl would probably love to have on her wedding day?

    Post # 11
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    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I plan to do some pics that will be a bit hard on my dress, like playing a bit with pictures in the sand. II will not be going in the ocean with my dress though! I don’t want to destroy it, and also that thing is heavy! I suck at swimming! Too scary for me!

    Post # 12
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    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I didn’t use my actual wedding dress – its still haniging in my closet all nice and clean but my TTD pics were amazing! I think i loved them even more than my actual wedding pictures!

    Post # 13
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    5221 posts
    Bee Keeper

    It doesn’t bother me one way or the other. I have no issue with people who want to get more use of it and do another shoot, clean it and then put it up. If people want to donate– go ahead and do that, too. 

     

    Post # 14
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @KateByDesign:  I really don’t think that it’s a matter of people “not caring” about their dress at all. The entire photo shoot is honoring the dress by putting it into crazy (often gorgeous) situations that you wouldn’t ever get to treasure by having the material boxed up, shoved in a closet and sitting in the dark for the rest of your life. 

     

     

    @shychigirl:  Exactly. I’m not saying it isn’t a great thing for people to donate their dress if that’s what they choose to do.. great! But to hold it over people’s head what they should or shouldn’t do with their purchase is silly. You can’t judge somebody for a single action. Maybe they regularly donate to charities, volunteer, etc. Let the bride have some fun!

    I personally am going to do one. It won’t really get ruined, I’ll be doing pictures on my horse, but will avoid dragging it through dirt/manure. I will likely have it cleaned and either sell it or box it up after.. who knows, I just think boxing it is silly.

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Even if the dress isn’t trashed, it seems a bit narcicisstic to me. A whole photo shoot (and all that money) devoted just to HEY LOOK AT ME, I’M TRYING TO BE UNIQUE!!!

    Even worse when a replica is used– it’s excessively spendy and it feels fake.

    The whole concept seems to be manufactured by the fashion and wedding industries as yet another way to get into our pockets.

    Post # 16
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    5221 posts
    Bee Keeper

    to hold it over people’s head what they should or shouldn’t do with their purchase is silly. You can’t judge somebody for a single action. Maybe they regularly donate to charities, volunteer, etc. Let the bride have some fun!



    That is kind of my line of thinking on it as well, you put it better than I could have!

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