(Closed) How do you really feel about Trash the Dress???

posted 9 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Would you do a Trash the Dress??

    No way! I could never do that to my dress

    Heck yes! its something unique and beautiful


  • Post # 124
    134 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I think it’s awesome 😀 I’ve read that brides rarely ruin their dresses. The iconic pictures (such as setting the dress on fire) does but for the most part you won’t be doing that. Water and dirt wash out.

    It’s also suggested that you use the phrase “Free to Flaunt,” “Rock the dress,” or a similar phrase now because “trash” has negative connotations.

    You don’t actually trash the dress… In my opinion TTD is just a way of saying “taking an unconventional photo shoot with your wedding dress”

    Post # 125
    4107 posts
    Honey bee

    wow, i just read more replies and see all the judgement some bees were referring to. And i am definitely with PPs who don’t agree with judging someone for what they choose to do with their money. especially in one small area of life such as a wedding dress!  

    I also don’t get why most people (on this thread) seem to think that your only options of what to do with your wedding dress are either to keep it or donate it.  Another reason i got a cheaper dress for my TTD is because when i bought my wedding dress, I had every intention to SELL it after.  I wanted the perfect dress so i decided to splurge on one that was a bit over my budget and if i could sell it for at least half price after, I would be happy. And I did.  So i was happy i got the dress of my dreams for basically half price and another bride was also happy to get the dress of her dreams for half price. I think that is also an ideal solution for people who can’t afford the overpriced gowns but really want to wear one for one day!  Sometimes I wish i spent more time looking on the used dress websites before i bought my dress – then maybe i would have paid half price initially and then sold it for half of that!  Then 3 people would get to wear it, each paying less for it each time.  (the only thing I didn’t account for was the cost of alterations and dry cleaning, bleh)

    Post # 126
    950 posts
    Busy bee

    I would rather donate my dress to a non-profit for low-income brides. I don’t see any point in wasting a perfectly good garment.

    Post # 127
    1731 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I see nothing wrong with a TTD shoot if your not actually destroying the dress.  If it is unwearable after that then I see it as a waste.  

    I will actually be wearing my mom’s dress.  If I weren’t then I would probably perserve, donate or sell it.  I will be represerving my mom’s though.

    Post # 128
    255 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @zippylef:   @hammerpants:  Actually, they are still trash the dress sessions. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trash_the_dress A TTD session IS an additional photo shoot, just like separate bridal portraits. 

    Well I think that’s misleading and stupid as hell.  That’s like calling a photoshoot in a field “trash the field” pictures then getting all bent out of shape when people comment that it’s in bad taste to trash a field in order to take some pictures.

    Post # 129
    1039 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    That dress is mine, paid for with hard earned money, and I’ll do what I want with it. It’s been in it’s bag since the wedding, and will continue to stay there until I finally decide what I want to do with it. I wanted to sell it, but my DH was sentimental about keeping it. (Awww!) If we do a TTD shoot together, we’ll get it cleaned and maybe make something out of it afterwards, who knows. But guess what? No judgemental stranger on the internet will ever talk me out of something just because they feel or think differently than me, and that goes for anything, not just this dumb dress issue.

    @AllTheGoodUsernamesAreTaken:  Oh sweetie, sweetie, sweetie. Are you really going to get mad at a stranger online for shopping at WalMart when they can afford Target? No. Are you really going to get mad at a stranger online for getting gas at the 76 when they can afford Chevron? No. Are you really going to get mad at a stranger online for taking their kids to the free movie during the day when they can afford the ticket prices at night? No. Are you really going to get mad at a stranger online for going through the drive through car wash when they can afford the premium hand wash? No. So don’t get your panties in a twist when someone shops at a thrift store when you *feel* like they can afford other stores. So friggin what. Stop waste your time whining online to people you don’t know about things you can’t control and start a home business or get another job. Then you would be able to afford things at all of these other stores instead of just crying about it.

    /gets off soap box/

    Post # 130
    17 posts
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @KateByDesign:  you are so right! its better to donate it than to trash it

    Post # 131
    3696 posts
    Sugar bee

    I love the day after/TTD shoots and plan on doing one myself.

    Those saying all brides should donate their dresses rather than do a photoshoot where it gets dirty, worry about your own clothing, not what’s hanging in others’ closets. If you want to donate your dress, great, I want to roll around in a dry lakebed with mine and there is nothing wrong with that.

    Post # 133
    6303 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Honestly,unless you are actually rolling in the mud, dresses are rarely trashed. Most of my clients are actually doing a “day after” session…where we’re getting bride and groom Photos in a location different from their wedding without the worry of getting dirty or being in a rush to get to a reception.

    I plan on taking my dress to Mexico for an underwater session in cenote. I personally think the images are beautiful and i don’t really concern myself with what anyone else thinks.

    Post # 134
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    To me, it’s not so much about the dress as it is about this new trend of odd editorial photography. If you get married on a beach and do pictures at the water’s edge, then the tide comes in and the dress gets wet, that’s one thing. It ends up being a fun memory. But setting up a shoot at a paintball range, or lying in mud with a high fashion pout make no sense to me. 

    Of course, I also don’t like the frowning, looking away from each other shots or things like that. To me, photos at the wedding are more for memories, not for some attempt to pretend I’m a Vogue model for the day.

    In ten years, the trash the dress trend will be long dead, and the pictures will end up on some Awkward Family Photos style website, and people will be wondering wtf that was all about.

    Post # 135
    7551 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    i won’t do it, i don’t like it personally, but whatever someone wants to do with their dress is their business

    Post # 136
    437 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I dont think the trend will die I think the term “trash” will, its really just a glamour type photo shoot. I think it will become “tradition”, more so for 30 and under. 90% of the “trash” the dress shoots there is no trashing.

    Post # 137
    2639 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    My dress was my FAVORITE thing I ever wore. Why would I want to destroy it? (I’m going to sell it…too fabulous to sit in a closet and not get loved.)

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