(Closed) How do you really feel about your future mother-in-law?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How do you feel about your future mother-in-law?

    I like and respect her. I think we will get along great!

    Some reservations, but I think we will manage to get along.

    It bothers me somewhat that I'll have to deal with her for years to come.

    I hate that woman!

  • Post # 32
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    8574 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I like and respect her. I think we will get along great!

    She’s a freaking dream, I adore her, and we email each other weekly. Her Mother-In-Law lives in the house with her & her husband, and she’s a nightmare. She doesn’t want to be anything like her, so she intentially tries not to step over any boundaries.

    Post # 33
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    402 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Well, I have only met her once, and it was kind of uncomfortable.  Fiance is from Puerto Rico, and his mother and father still live there.  A few years ago, right before we became engaged, she came with his brother and his wife to meet me, at my house, right before Christmas.  She speaks English, but she conversed with Future Brother-In-Law in Spanish, and it made for an uncomfortable day.  She and Fiance have long had issues, nothing he does is ever good enough, so he was uncomfortable as well.  When she would ask him a question in Spanish, he answered in English.  Later, he called her on it, saying it was rude to do that in my house.  I think we will get along, but it won’t be a close relationship.

    Post # 34
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Carolsays:  Where is the “I absolutely love her and think she is AMAZING” option?!!! Or is it really that uncommon for people to think this way about their mother-in-laws?

    Post # 35
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    2167 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Carolsays:  I love my Future Mother-In-Law. She is one of the sweetest women I know. I respect her tremendously and we get along really, really well. She has 3 boys and no daughters so we have grown very close. It is a relationship that I value very much. I honestly could not dream up better inlaws than the ones I am getting. I love them. 

    Post # 36
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    2949 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    With the Fiance, I have his mother and his stepmother and I wholeheartedly adore both of them. They’re both wonderful women in their own right and I’m so grateful that they’ve welcomed with open arms.

     

    Post # 37
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    3871 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    No Mother-In-Law because she passed from cancer when DH was in high school 🙁 however, I have a wonderful relationship with Father-In-Law and the rest of the family!

    Post # 38
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    1325 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

    I LOVE her!!! His family is so supportive and kind to both of us.  I actually contribute the bad in laws to our relationship.

    Post # 39
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    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I love mine she is a great person and we really don’t disagree on anything important. It make me thankful when I hear monster in law stories. My mom also loves my Fiance. 🙂 

    Post # 40
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    1300 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    SOs mother is no jokes one of my best friends. We talk on the phone every day. she is a wonderful woman and I love her Dearly. I’m not close with my own mother so for the first time I have felt an unconditional motherly love.

    i like to tease SO that Freud would have a field day with him since he picked to spend his life with a woman so similar to his mother! 

    Post # 41
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    1087 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I love her!!! She really is the best. 

    Post # 42
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    2143 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I abosolutely love her. I think she’s an amazing woman. Do I think she can be a little crazy sometimes? Yup. But I love her. 

    Post # 43
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    2113 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @Carolsays:  I picked some reservations. I love her to bits, but she can be very touchy. She after 6 or 7 years of loving me, I was suddenly enemy #1. She just recently started liking me again.

     

    Post # 44
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    6261 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I wish there was a love and adore her option! 

    Post # 45
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    214 posts
    Helper bee

    Things have been happening lately that can make me truly say that Future Mother-In-Law is not a good mother and I’m glad she moved away.  She takes advantage of the fact that she knows how to push her son’s buttons.  She was a single parent (but heavily relied on her sister and mother) but remarried when SO was ten, so he never was “man of the house” or anything like that.  But she, for lack of a better word, relies on him far more than a woman should rely on her son, like you would expect a woman to lean on her husband (she isn’t particularly fond of her husband, sorry but he’s not a terrible guy and that’s frankly not SO’s problem to fix).  SO and Future Mother-In-Law are close so I understand that Future Mother-In-Law moving away is difficult so I understand that they talk on the phone and such.  But there’s no reason for her to demand he take an hour and a half almost every night to Skype and bitch him out and make him feel like shit because he can’t do it every single night.  He gave up most of his adolescence because she demanded he always be home, even after he started college, even after he moved out, and even after he moved in with me.  He mostly supports himself (college and a small portion of rent comes from the GI Bill and I think she pays his health/ car insurances) but the day that all stops (soon!) she can go straigt to hell with her overbearing, controlling “parenting” because that’s not going to fly with me and it will effect me if she tries to keep that shit up once we’re married (and have kids!)  Oh hell no.

    Post # 46
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    There’s no option for, “I wish I could have met her.” DH’s mum died when he was 16, before we had met. She sounds like a fantastic woman, and I am sad that I never had the chance to meet her. DH clearly loved her very much, and even if she had NOT been such a great person, I still wish he had his mum and that she had been able to see her DS get married.

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