(Closed) How do you refer to your stepchildren?

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: What do you call/how do you refer to you step kids?
    Stepchild : (4 votes)
    36 %
    My/Our child : (3 votes)
    27 %
    Bonus child (or another special/unique name) : (1 votes)
    9 %
    No title - you just use their name : (3 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
    9681 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @luvmesumhim:  Whatever your comfortable with is what you should do. I personally wouldn’t call a child “mine” if it wasn’t the case (either biologically or through adoption). Some people are extremely close with their stepkids, but if the mom is still in the picture then that’s her title. I’ve seen people do both though. To each their own.  

    Post # 4
    539 posts
    Busy bee

    @luvmesumhim:  I call my stepsons ‘my buddies’ or ‘the kiddos’

    Post # 5
    5 posts
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I have three biological children. I was lucky enough to have a child that was given to me through a previous marriage. Even though his father and I aren’t married anymore  (We divorced due to the drugs and he really doesn’t speak to his father for the same reasons), my son and I talk alot and he is going to stand with me on my side on the day of my wedding. I call him my son because he is a part of my life. 

    I think that the choice is yours to make. If someone asks you, say yes, they are. Strangers don’t care if they are step or bio. I told Marshall once that he was my “bio by o’ noth o’ motho”. He laughed so hard I thought that he was going to wet himself! 


    Congrats on your family!! You will figure it out! 

    Post # 6
    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think it depends a lot on the relationship between you and the children, and between the children and their biological mom.

    My husband isn’t biologically my child’s father, but he’s her dad. He refers to her as “my child” or “our child” when speaking to other people, and she calls him sometimes by his name and sometimes “Daddy.” They are really close. She has never had her bio dad in her life, though, so the dynamic is very different compared to a situation where all the bio parents are involved.

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