(Closed) How do you say “No…I don’t want to be your bridesmaid”???

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
8941 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m glad she understood!

Post # 18
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I’m glad it worked out for you!

I said “thanks but no thanks” to an acquaintance who asked me to be in her wedding after her top bridesmaid choices had backed out. I was obviously on her B-list, which wasn’t cool. But I had a hard time deciding whether to say yes or no, because all of my other friends are in the wedding. I sort of didn’t want to feel left out from the experience…and I was actually getting pressured from my pals to be a bridesmaid so that I could endure the same “joys of the wedding” as they would.

In the end, I stuck to my guns. I decided that the emotional stress it would cause me, not to mention the $1,000-plus-dollars I would likely be spending on her big day, were just not worth the “honor” of standing for someone who in the end is just not that important to me.

Now, I am responsibility-free, and I still get to hear all of the juicy gossip about her increasingly bad bridezilla antics through my friends without having to personally deal with it myself. Win-win for me!

Lesson learned: go with your gut if you really don’t want to be in a wedding, unless it’s a direct relative – then you sort of have to say yes.

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