Post # 1
So I would like to invite one of my co-workers to our wedding, and I asked him what his wifes name was, and he replied “Bitch.” Um.. okay… awkward… He went on to say that they are having issues right now and are verging on divorce, so fair enough, he was venting. So… do I put “Co-worker + Wifes Name”, “Co-worker + Guest”, or what? I’m certainly not putting “Co-worker + Bitch” The address he gave me to send it is still thier shared house, so I’m totally not sure. I’m not a stickler for ettiquite but I’m not sure what to do here…
Post # 3
@groovinbride: haha I’m having an image of that last placecard sitting on a table
on a more serious note, I would maybe try asking him again, especially if he is bringing his wife, a guest, or coming alone. I think- no matter how “on the verge of divorce” I was from my husband, I would be mortified if I saw “guest” replacing my name on the placecard. You could also ask another coworker who he is friendly with about his wife’s name. Totally awkward situation.
Post # 4
hahaha, oh geez. If they are verging on divorce would he even bring his wife to your wedding? I would think if its a nasty divorce that dates/outings together would cease…
Post # 5
I say let him have a guest and see if he bring her. They might end up patching things up by the time the wedding rolls around and it would just be awkward if he had to leave her behind because she didn’t have an invite.
Post # 6
Lol well exactly! I don’t think he will end up bringing her, but since they are still technically married and living at the same address I think I will just put both thier names on the card. They can RSVP how they wish. It is his sort of style of humour but common! Men, “bitch” is not how you reply to the question of how to spell your wifes name!!!
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
co-worker and bitch … has a ring to it
lol – ask him again seriously
Post # 8
Did he actually disclose her real name? If so, I’d just put that on there, and he can decide if he’s bringing her later. I wouldn’t ‘and guest” him unless you’re really open to him bringing anybody.
Post # 9
it’s his wife, so why wouldn’t you put Mr. and Mrs. X?
Post # 10
@gingernutjo: Oh I would for sure put at least a +1 or +guest on the card, but I think that might be awkward showing up at thier house. I have met his wife on multiple occasions, so it’s not like I could have mistakenly forgotten she existed…
Post # 11
and Mrs. John Smith
That’s the correct way regardless of their personal problems.
Post # 12
@Zavrazen: It’s only correct if they share a last name and she has chosen to be “Mrs. John Smith”…. but still, OP, I think in this situation putting “Mr. and Mrs. Guy’s name” is a safe way to go — I didn’t take my husband’s last name, but I don’t get upset when people make this mistake. Better than “and bitch,” certainly. Ha!
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
I think you should just pretend you’re unaware of their personal problems & just use “Mr. & Mrs. Co-Worker.” Even if DH & I were on the verge of divorce [heaven forbid!], I would be mortified if he went around telling people this, especially in the event we end up staying together or whatever.
Post # 14
I’d just put “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe”. Better than Bitch!
Post # 15
I would just put his name + 1. Its not like you know her personally or anything.
Post # 16
I’d still put his wife’s name on the card unless they are actually separated or divorced by the time you send out the invitations. They are still a couple until then and should be invited as such. He can always choose not to bring her/ she can choose to not go with him 🙂
ETA: Just realized that you don’t know her name! Then go for Mr. and Mrs. Smith or ask him again another time.