(Closed) "How do you spell your wife's name?' "Bitch…"

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@groovinbride:  haha I’m having an image of that last placecard sitting on a table 

on a more serious note, I would maybe try asking him again, especially if he is bringing his wife, a guest, or coming alone.  I think- no matter how “on the verge of divorce” I was from my husband, I would be mortified if I saw “guest” replacing my name on the placecard.  You could also ask another coworker who he is friendly with about his wife’s name.  Totally awkward situation.

Post # 4
4497 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

hahaha, oh geez. If they are verging on divorce would he even bring his wife to your wedding? I would think if its a nasty divorce that dates/outings together would cease…

Post # 5
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I say let him have a guest and see if he bring her. They might end up patching things up by the time the wedding rolls around and it would just be awkward if he had to leave her behind because she didn’t have an invite. 

Post # 7
1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

co-worker and bitch … has a ring to it

lol – ask him again seriously 

Post # 8
9057 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Did he actually disclose her real name?  If so, I’d just put that on there, and he can decide if he’s bringing her later.  I wouldn’t ‘and guest” him unless you’re really open to him bringing anybody.

Post # 9
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

it’s his wife, so why wouldn’t you put Mr. and Mrs. X?

Post # 11
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Very simple





and Mrs. John Smith













That’s the correct way regardless of their personal problems. 




Post # 12
4522 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Zavrazen:  It’s only correct if they share a last name and she has chosen to be “Mrs. John Smith”…. but still, OP, I think in this situation putting “Mr. and Mrs. Guy’s name” is a safe way to go — I didn’t take my husband’s last name, but I don’t get upset when people make this mistake. Better than “and bitch,” certainly. Ha!

Post # 13
2574 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I think you should just pretend you’re unaware of their personal problems & just use “Mr. & Mrs. Co-Worker.”  Even if DH & I were on the verge of divorce [heaven forbid!], I would be mortified if he went around telling people this, especially in the event we end up staying together or whatever.

Post # 14
7978 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d just put “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe”. Better than Bitch!

Post # 15
8489 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would just put his name + 1. Its not like you know her personally or anything.

Post # 16
2872 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d still put his wife’s name on the card unless they are actually separated or divorced by the time you send out the invitations.  They are still a couple until then and should be invited as such.  He can always choose not to bring her/ she can choose to not go with him 🙂

ETA: Just realized that you don’t know her name! Then go for Mr. and Mrs. Smith or ask him again another time.

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