Post # 31
I think you need to alternate and not take all 3 of the holidays with your family. A compromise means work on both ends. Either that or spend them at your home, inviting both families over. If Mother-In-Law doesn’t come, that’s her problem.
My fiance and I have been together for three Christmases. The first we went to our own families because we’d not even been together for a year. The next year we celebrated together alone at our apartment, and a couple of days later went to his grandparents with his mother for a long afternoon dinner. This past year we were at my parents’ house. This coming year we’ll go to his mom’s house. He is English so they don’t technically celebrate Thanksgiving, but in 2014 when we couldn’t afford to fly to my parents for the holiday his mom bought all of the things we needed to cook a turkey dinner, which was amazing. This coming year we’re having Thanksgiving with my family and it’ll be a couple weeks after the wedding. So we’ve kind of alternated every holiday every year and it works for us.
Post # 32
This is tough and I feel you. We live near my family and FI’s family lives 4 hours away. It’s hard because my family is very small, just my dad and grandmother really. However, Fiance has a huge family with lots of people
Small holidays like today we stay home and usually have lunch with my family. Fiance doesn’t celebrate Easter and his family is out of town anyway so that’s no big deal for anyone. Big holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas we make it a point to hit both families. For example, on Christmas we spent Christmas Eve with our best friends for “Friendsmas” as is tradition. We spent Christmas day morning with my family. After we left my families we got in the car and drove the four hours to FI’s family and spent the weekend with them. On thanksgiving we had originally planned that he would go to his families and I would stay with mine. However, my dad said that was not right and opted to move out family thanksgiving go a different day so we could be together and celebrate with both families.
I don’t know what your situation is but unless you live farther than four hours apart I don’t see why you can’t make it work to see both families.