(Closed) How do you split up xmas? His fam or yours?

posted 6 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: Where do you spend the holidays
    Always with SOs family : (11 votes)
    5 %
    Always with my family : (21 votes)
    9 %
    Alternating years (one year with SOs` fam, next year with mine) : (44 votes)
    19 %
    Always both : (112 votes)
    49 %
    Other-Please explain : (36 votes)
    16 %
    I like polls! : (5 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @veryberry13:  We live fairly far from our families now, and my job doesn’t allow much time off around the holidays. This year, we are traveling for Thanksgiving (with his family), and spending Christmas at home. My parents might be visiting us right before or after Christmas, but that’s still up in the air. Last year, we spent Thanksgiving with his family and Christmas with mine. I’d prefer to be on a schedule where we alternated every year, but for now, we are stuck doing whatever my schedule allows. 

    Post # 4
    9681 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @veryberry13:  We always spend it with my family. We go to Russia and then have a local celebration here. 

    Post # 5
    2622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Xmas eve with the inlaws. 

    Then we get up at 630 am and drive 2 hours to my parents and spend xmas day with my parents.

    EDIT: Thanksgiving at home since we have to fly to visit family.

    Post # 6
    14492 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We got lucky, thanksgiving is big with his family where Christmas is my families main holiday (the holiday everyone flies in for, doesn’t miss, has expected tradions for).  It makes it so much easier to plan our lives around.

    Post # 7
    3772 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Our families are just a little over an hour apart. We do every holiday with both families. 

    Post # 8
    3281 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    We alternate years for Thanksgiving and Christmas. This year will be Thanksgiving with my family, Christmas with his, then heading down to visit my family immediately after. We also always travel the day after Christmas, so it’s always insane.

    My parents are divorced, so holidays are sort of stressful. It’s always kind of a nice break to spend holidays with his fam, lol.

    Post # 9
    885 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Thanksgiving with in laws, but my parents are always invited. 

    Christmas Eve with my parents and then pass by his parents’ house

    Christmas alone most years.  Christmas day does not mean much to us; in our culture we mostly celebrate Christmas Eve

    Post # 10
    11744 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    sometimes Darling Husband comes with me sometimes i go with him and sometimes we are just separated. It hasn’t caused any issues yet. We will have to be more creative once our little one arrives. It’s hard with my family 8 hours away and his nearby.

    Post # 11
    656 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Christmas Eve we go from my grandma’s to his parents and spend the night there because all the kids do. Then Christmas morning we leave there after early morning gifts and breakfast to do christmas lunch and dinner with my family.

    Post # 12
    2609 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    Our families live in the same area, all about 20 min drive from each other. Last year we spent Christmas eve with his Mom and brother. Then Christmas morning with my immediate family and the evening at his cousins house with lots of family on his fathers side (but not his father). The day after Christmas (boxing day), we have extended family over at my parents house. Though last year Fiance went to visit his grandmother out of town who has since passed. Then a few days after that we went to visit his Dad and his wife along with FI’s siblings/their spouses/kids. 

    Wow sounds like a lot huh?! Also add in me scheduling time to see my friends while we are in town too and it’s busy! Thankfully I’m usually able to take two weeks off around the holidays. Fiance doesn’t get as much time off but we still make it work.

    Post # 13
    2389 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We spend every Thanksgiving and Christmas with my family.  He doesn’t have any family except a half-sister who lives in Austria, one niece, and 4 great-nieces.  My family’s all a 4 hour drive from us.

    Post # 14
    452 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    We typically spend holidays separately with our own families. Neither family lives in the same city as us and are basically 4-5 hours driving in opposite directions (i.e. 8-10 hours apart). I expect we’ll continue this until we have kids and then come up with some kind of alternating plan.


    Post # 15
    5004 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2018

    My family does all of our stuff on Christmas Eve anyway, so we spend Christmas Eve with my family and Christmas Day with his. 

    Post # 16
    1130 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @veryberry13:  I voted other. I could have voted “always both” but we are never all together. December 25th is always spent with my family. FH and his family are all Serbian Orthodox and their Christmas is on January 7th. His parents and sister live here so we celebrate with them on the 7th.

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