(Closed) How do you stay disciplined??

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 3
Member
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think that there are some things that are going to be a high priority for any engaged couple.  For you, it seems like photography is fairly high up there, so I would not spend any more time beating yourself up over something that you truely want.  In this instance, you are not throwing money away.  If there are other things that aren’t as important to you, well those are the areas where you are going to cut back and find alternate routes to stick to your budget. 

Keep in mind that it seems that a large portion of engaged couples go over their original budgets and have some buyers’ remorse about it, so while that’s uncomfortable, it happens to many people. 

If you hate the idea of the wedding industry in general, another thing you could do is say that you are going to try to choose vendors from local businesses rather than large companies to support in your wedding purchases. 

I hope that helps!  🙂

Post # 4
Member
21 posts
Newbee

Oh my gosh! I’m so glad I found your post because last night I couldn’t sleep until 4 am thinking about the wedding. I am in exactly the same mode as you and now I think I might have to start from scratch after over a month of planning and research.

 Originally, I really didn’t want to spend much on the wedding. I too just wanted to spend 10K-15K. Well of course we found our dream photographer who charges $1,500 PER HOUR…..ugh, and than we fell in love with the most expensive venue. I was only planning on having 20-40 guests and now we are looking at $1,000 per head!!!

 I went back to the drawing board, but like you can’t seem to find a smal nice venue that is reasonalby priced. I’m not sure what to do at this point. My Fiance wants to go ahead and spend the money for a dream wedding, but I don’t know if I can stomach it. I don’t want to regret it the next day. Our parents will also be giving us around $40-50K, but I really would rather spend that on a down payment for a house. I live in CA and you can barely get a decent home for 800K in my area.

I’m still not sure what to do at this point. Just wanted to let you know I’m totally feeling it too!

Post # 5
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156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Our budget is $15,000.  Even though I would love a large expensive wedding, my Fiance has his sites on buying a home for us.  Our parents cannot afford to help out with the wedding either.  As lovelondonrain mentioned We would rather spend that money on a new home.  I love my Fiance and I don’t want to start out our marriage with an enormous debt.  It’s helpful that I like the simpler things in life which makes my planning somewhat easy. 

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