- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
What it comes down to is…and you’ll know this when you have a baby…when you have a child, at least if you’re a good mother, they become your ENTIRE WORLD. Sure, I still have a full time job, I still have hobbies and of course I love to carry on a non-baby-related conversation, but when it comes down to it the most important thing in my life is my child and anybody who knows me could easily guess that.
A majority of my Facebook statuses are baby related (wedding related as of late) but I make it a point not to make it always be about the baby as I can see how that can get annoying to my childless friends. I have one friend in particular who posts every single day about her children and really does have no life outside of being 26 and a mother of soon to be 4. I both envy and feel bad for her for being such a hardworking stay at home mom.
When I had my baby I naturally gravitated toward my parent friends and my non parent friends naturally drifted away. I feel more accepted at work where all of my coworkers are older.
People are going to talk about whatever consumes their life the most, and having children is all-consuming, mentally, physically, financially…it takes over. But that doesn’t mean you need to let parenthood completely strip you of your former identity. The problem is most moms, including myself, feel like taking time for their own interests and hobbies is selfish. So you end up with a person who completely gives up their own life to assume the identity of caretaker of their families. So next time you want to think they’re “boring,” remember the sacrifices they’ve made to become so, it’s nothing anyone does consciously.