(Closed) How do you stay motivated for long-term goals?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am literally one of the least patient people I know. If I want something, I want it NOW- not in the spoiled ‘veruca salt’ kind of way, just because if there’s something exciting or new on the  horizon, I get obsessed with it. This is NOT good for long term plans or things that I have no control over. So, I find interim obsessions to take my mind off it. This is probably why I have so many projects or hobbies ongoing!

If I was in your shoes I would research the hell out of moving, immigration, places you want to move to. Maybe even let youself get obsessed with it, and then youll get bored of it! That works for me ๐Ÿ˜‰ Unfortunately I’ve never been lucky enough to choose where I want to live- my industry dictates that! So I am jealous that you have the opportunity to move to an area of your choice!

Breaking down long term goals into smaller chunks may help you when it actually comes to the move itself (chosen your town, know your employment opportunities etc).

Post # 6
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh yeah, we have a plan to relocate to Scotland eventually, but its something that may not happen for 5,10,or even 20+ years. So what do I do now?Obsess over it totally and utterly! I have a folder full of perfect locations and cottages that are ideal. At the same time, we have both agreed that if we move their and buy a home,it  would be our forever home, so if we are going to do it, we may as well make sure everything is perfect. Your timeline is more “realistic” though, as us moving is more of a dream ideal.

Sigh,fantasizing, research and obsessing is all I can do right now, but it is something we are both REALLY passionate about so Im hoping thats how we stay motivated to it!

Post # 8
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@canarydiamond:  I lived in Alaska for 6 years. I met my Fiance there, who was from Colorado, like me. I got tired of AK, the cold and LONG AND DARK winters, not seeing my family, etc. My Fiance (boyfriend at the time) didn’t care one way or the other if we moved. He had a good job in AK but our goals were to be nurses. We started taking all the prereqs togwther but it got to a point where it was gonna be 2 years wait to get into the nursing school in AK (there is only one). 




We were living together in my (now our) apartment at the time and had been dating for a year and a half. I told him I wanted to move. Neither of us wanted to give up the relationship and he had wanted to move back to Colorado anyways. I nailed down a date, gave our notice to the landlord, had a garage sale to sell things we didn’t want to take, and we moved in August of 2009. We lived with my parents for about a year (his parents are 20 min away but have a smaller house), then we bought our own place. We started nursing school in July 2010 and graduated with our bachelor’s degrees in March 2012. We are now both employed as nurses. We got engaged in January of this year and are getting married in November. 




Long story short….go for the life you want to live. It’s worth it, even if you DO have to wait. But if you are waiting for the PERFECT time, there will never be one. You just have to jump in with both feet. ๐Ÿ™‚


 ETA: Of course, NOW we want to move to Hawaii!!!!


Post # 10
1073 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Darling Husband and I where just talking about this sort of thing today at dinner. We want to buy a house in a year or two. Then TTC after being in the house for a while, etc. Lately I have been feeling really stuck in a rut. The job I work at is very low paying but very good benefits. So I picked up a second job three nights a week as well. I’m currently looking for a better paying job and I’m haveing trouble staying motivated. Darling Husband helped me break it down by setting a goal for each week. This really helps me put life into persepective. 

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