(Closed) How do you stay positive while TTC?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You don’t (HA).

It has been 13 long months for us, I have ridiculous cycles on my own (100 and 200 days), so I have been started on meds to try and remedy that.

It is incredibly hard. I have cried almost monthly about it, because my body doesn’t work right, and I feel like I am letting Darling Husband down. Darling Husband is super laid back about it, and isn’t concerned about waiting for our baby (at least that is what he tells me).

We do a lot of reminding ourselves about what we can do now that we couldn’t, or it would be difficult to do with a baby (landscaping the yard, etc). We also take a lot of time out to go on dates and stuff, and we don’t force sex anymore. We try to maintain an every second day schedule, but if we miss a day, no biggie, it isn’t the end of the world.

I don’t have any really great advice, as you can see (LOL) you just have to try to relax about it and keep your focus on other things as well.

Post # 4
801 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Some months will be better than others but some months are just totally sucky because of it.  My  husband was really supportive while we were TTC.  When I had really bad months, he’d support me emotionally and occaisionally we’d splurge on something that I really wanted but couldn’t justify otherwise, little treats like that to offset the crummy time. 

Definitely try to spend the time you can focused on things you won’t have as easy a time once baby joins you.  Make sure you surround yourself by those people who love and support you, even if they don’t know you are TTC.  A positive atmosphere helps though it doesn’t solve it by a long shot.

Post # 6
2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@MARIE901: ms mini is right, sometimes you just cant stay positive.

But you lean on people around you, or those in cyberspace to help you get through the day.  You pick yourself up and you move forward the best way you can.


Post # 7
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I totally agree with a lot of the other posters. It’s really hard to stay positive. You just have to surround yourself with fantastic people and lean on them when you need them. There are days that I have complete breakdowns when I hear of someone new getting pregnant in the first month, and there are other days that I’m fine. 

We’ve been TTC since June 2010. I found out that I was pregnant in the beginning of May and miscarried in the beginning of June 2011. So it’s definitely been tough. these boards have helped me tremendously.

Post # 8
1263 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

It’s really hard sometimes.  Can’t add too much to what others have posted here.  There’s a good thread (it’s a sticky at the top of the babies board) called the TTC and Still Going List.  It’s a good thread for those who have been TTC for awhile.

Post # 9
3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

It is extremely hard to stay positive.  All you can do is try your hardest each month, stay healthy, and distract yourself with friends and hobbies when needed.  Oh, and wine helps too.


Post # 12
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I haven’t figured out how yet.

Post # 13
2161 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I know this is so minor, but I just got AF during my first cycle TTC.  My son was a very lucky cycle one baby, so I guess I thought I would have the same luck again.   My Darling Husband is very disappointed, he’s 43 next month and is worried because of a car accident and injurires he substained during it.  This will be his first child, if we conceive.

It’s hard, but remember that each cycle only comes with a 20-25% chance, even with perfect timing.   Most couples take 6-12 months.   So, while it may seem like an eternity, most of us should have our babies in 2012!

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