Post # 1
So our venue capacity is 100 people. There are family members on both sides, that probably aren’t coming, but have to receive invitations or else they’ll be hurt, but there’s that small possibility they’ll decide to come. How do you deal with this??? I really want to make sure we stay under our capacity, and I don’t want to be sitting here white knuckeld hoping the people I predicted wouldn’t come are in fact not coming. I wish you could just send an announcement and not actual invites…but that would probably be considered rude… Right now we have about 110 people on our list… my mom thinks there’s a good chance that 10-20% won’t show up….
How have bees with small weddings dealt with this???
Post # 3
Usually some don’t come, however, we invited 63 or 64 people (can’t remember now) and ALL said yes. (We did have two last minute cancellations due to emergencies) We wanted 55-60 people, so we decided to invite 63 or 64 thinking about 5-10 wouldn’t come. Didn’t happen. Just remember that. Many will say they had 10-25% not come, but it IS possible that the 110 will come. Not likely, but possible.
Post # 4
Hello In my case I have a limit of 200 guests, and our list was over 200 people, will send a RSVP card for the recepcion,that say no children and that say 2 people or personal. with the invitAtion. So aim sending invitation to all the fAmily members,even when think that they won’t probAbly go to the reception, and sending RSVP cards for the amount of adults on ea h family (in this case, I am not suggesting that you don’t invite children to therecption, but what you can do is send RSVP reception cards for the amount of 2 or 4people per family,so mostly the adult members of some families will go.i hope this can help
Post # 5
I feel like I need to poll our families to see how many of them would really come…it’s really the aunts and cousins that are threatening to mess things up… and I mean some of them we haven’t seen in years… could you just do an announcement?
Post # 6
Is there no extra room at the venue? If it’s for the ceremony, don’t forget that the wedding party will not need seats 🙂 And if it’s for the reception, you could always squeeze ten extra people in at the tables if everyone decides to come. I think you are safe with inviting 110 people but I wouldn’t invite any more.
Post # 7
The ceremony and reception are at the same site…in order to make it easier for out of town guests so they’re not driving all over the place… So I think 110 would be the absolute max for both the ceremony and reception. My other idea is to send out family and close friends first…. and then after we get their RSVP’s send out another wave to other friends and coworkers etc….I think that way there’s no way that one group will know they were in the first or second wave of invites…
Post # 8
I think an A/B list would be really good in your situation. And, I agree with you that no one is likely to find out if they were on the A/B list.
We’re in the same situation where we HAVE to invite a whole crowd that we either don’t know or don’t really like… but they’re family so they have to be invited. Sigh. In my mind, an obligitory invite is only half of one… but it is what it is.
What we did was talk to our moms and grandmas and they were able to tell us alot about each person and if they thought they were likely to come or not. The best thing to do would be to just get your invites out and go from there! 🙂
Post # 9
I wouldn’t worry about 10 people, you should have that many no’s. We ended up doing announcements b/c I was paranoid.
Post # 10
I’m a little paranoid as well, but we only have about 3 people we are inviting but are 95% sure they won’t come… We are going to send them invites and send other invites slightly later. So before the rest of the invites go out, FH will call these 3 people up and figure out if they will or will not be attending. And then send the invites out accordingly.
However, I don’t think know if I should send them STD’s though (they’re all OOT).
Post # 11
There’s nothing wrong with putting out a feeler a bit. Get your mom and in-laws to kind of casually ask around about who might be able to make it for the family members.
If you’re inviting a lot of out of town guests, you’ll likely get a lot more no’s. My FI’s entire family lives across the country, so about 10/28 were able to make it.