(Closed) How do you stop a Runaway Train?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

“Every time we talk to the groom, he’s completely overwhelmed by her needs and the wedding and doesn’t know what to do. Every time I talk to her, she has a new thing to complain about and admitted that she’s not even looking forward to the wedding.”

Most couples who are going through the planning stages have experienced exactly this, it’s not a sign of doom in a marriage. I think you’re letting past judgements of them as single people cloud your vision, they obviously click in more than one way if they’ve made it this far, and as long as you know there hasn’t been any infidelity, I wouldn’t say or do anything. HTH!

Post # 4
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Hmm, I would stay out of it.  They are both adults and they can figure things out for themselves.  If you talk to her, you are asking for trouble.  She won’t appreciate any of your advice and may even resent you for it (as is usually the case).

i totally understand that you both want to help, but it’s not your place.  Also, things are not always what they appear to outsiders.  They could be having a horrible time now, but a great marriage later on.  Or not:)  But that’s their business. 

Post # 6
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would only say something like, “Are you sure this is what you want?” IF and only if one of them brings it up to one of you. 

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