How do you stop being so obsessed/excited about getting engaged?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Weddingbee is great therapy!  Like retail therapy but cheaper but far more fun!  And so friendly.  Keeping distracted is always good, and like one bee said to me when I first started posting – exercise.  I took up dance. πŸ™‚

You have to enjoy your relationship as it is.  Even though there are times of disappointment.  It will happen.

Men need their moment.  And proposing is the one thing they have control over (and we dont!).  I think keep mum is a good idea but I’m rubbish at it.  Been pretty good recently.  Problem is – I’m always on here, and he’s always asking “what’s going on on your website?” aka Weddingbee.

Best of luck.  Welcome.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Hobbies. Seriously. I run a lot. I love it cause it keeps me in shape, kills my stress, and my mind literally goes blank after a run. Do you like to read? I’ve been blowing through a lot of books. I’ve slowly looked at little things here and there that I thought would be cool for a wedding. Cooking, cleaning, buying a house took my mind off of being engaged for a long time.   Planning vacations, taking classes on the side, getting our kitties and being rewarded with even more messes. πŸ˜‰ And I bought a RHR to help with the ring crave. 

Keep busy, that’s really the key and try not to worry. It’ll happen.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I (re)took up knitting!  I always need something in my hands to fiddle with (4th generation tailor, yo!), and most knitting projects keep my mind occupied as well, with counting, keeping track of where I am etc.  AND, it resulted in me knitting nearly ALL my Christmas gifts this year, with only $50-60 in yarn!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Oh my god i’m in the same boat.  This waiting game is killing me and its actually been making me terribly angry and stressed.  I had some kind of a break down where i was just terribly mean this sunday.  On the monday he had flowers delivered to my work and later we talked.  Be asked if i was acting like this because i was upset i wouldnt be proposed to by Christmas.  I said no (haha LIE) and he reassured me he will propose when the time is right. 

 

So honestly its so freaking difficult but you have to keep your mouth shut and try to ignore things! Bringing it up makes it worse and i kick myself every time i do because i feel like he postponed it then. 

Its going to happen dont worry!! Ugh i should take my own advice lol

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

The excitement doesn’t go away but you can find crafts and such to keep you busy, lol

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

@Ohhavok:

hahaha it makes me feel better than i’m not in this boat alone though.  And really what more can we do? They know we want it. We know they will get it.  As long as they havent said “I dont believe in marriage” i think we’re ok. 

but really……BOYS JUST DO IT ALREADY!! lol

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This board helps a lot! I like to daydream about different types of weddings that I might like. I’m currently planning for our next vacation. My brother is getting married in August and I’m one of the bridesmaids so they get me pretty involved. Seems to cool my wedding fever because I’m so excited for them I’m able to put my excitement at bay for a bit lol.

Don’t get me wrong..I talk to my SO way to much about it and always digging for hints. As of last night though I’ve decided to try and give it a rest for a few months. A rest as in not bringing it up to SO lol. Once you know that your SO absolutley wants to marry you it doesn’t seem so hard to wait. Good Luck!!

I’m new and love these boards. I’m sure you will too!

 

Post # 13
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Newbee

I tried wasting time on Pinterest and just ended up making a “Wedding Stuff” board that has prob 200 pins on it. lol  Undecided

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Try to keep yourself distracted or you’ll go crazy! Fiance always said he wanted it to be a surprise for me, but I didn’t think he’d be able to keep it a secret. We live together and share a bank account, it would be very hard. He made me believe that we were going ring shopping together on a Monday and the Friday before (my birthday) he asked me how mad I would be if we didn’t go ring shopping together on Monday, and then he pulled out my dream ring. Then I made him explain to me all the details of how he did it, and let me tell you, I never saw it coming! All of my family, all of his family, and all of our friends already knew it was coming. So if he wants it to be a surprise, he will find a way. lol

Trust me, being newly engaged, I fully understand how hard it is to wait when all you want is to start the rest of your life with someone. I literally had a deadline set in my mind where I wouldn’t wait any longer. But looking back now, I feel that if we would have gone ring shopping together, it would have really taken away from that moment. If a man wants to marry you, he will ask you when he is ready… And that doesn’t make it any easier for us!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada β™₯ EDD- April 2016

Distraction is key (: I find it really hard to wait sometimes but I find it gets a bit easier if I’m focused on school or baking or something. Coming on here definitely makes a HUGE difference πŸ˜‰ and going on sites like wedding gawker have really helped me too.  I try my best to focus on other things and think about what we’ve accomplished together and to think about all the other wonderful surprises that SO has given me (:

Post # 15
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 1995

I am struggling with this issue myself. (I googled: “How to not think about getting engaged”… Its so hard because you know that he’s the guy and that the Lord has placed him in your life. We enjoy casually talking about our future wedding someday… I have a hard time not taking those conversations so seriously. I need to just enoy our time together in the present. The future will come soone enough. Dont be so focused on the future that you miss out on what is right infront of you. I have read some of the pervious responses on this topic and I agree about the man needing his moment. It’s the one thing that he can plan completely without my input. He is trying to wait to where he and I both are financially ready. I completely agree with that mind set. It is just hard because when you’re in love, you tend to forget about those important things. Please be in prayer that God gives me patience on His will and Taylor’s timing. Thanks you guys!!

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