(Closed) How do you tell someone they arent a MOH? vent :( and long, sorry

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Your friend sounds like my friend. We have known each other since we were 2 as well, and we grew up together, but when it came time to select a Maid/Matron of Honor I chose my other bestie because S is a “convenience” friend. It does sound horrible when we say it, but it is true. she only wants to hang out when it’s at a bar or club. Even if we both have the day off and I invite her out to dinner (even my treat) she won’t come, but if I tell her let’s go to te bar, she is all up for it. Anyway, it’s up to YOU who you want.

I would just ask D “I would love it if you’d be a bridesmaid.” You may be surprised at how little fuss she puts up. If you are afraid of fuss just be honest with her. My friend wasn’t upset or mad because even though we only hang out when its convenient for her, she still loves me and I love her and we respect each other. We talk every day, I’m her son’s godmother, and we are still friends 🙂

It’s hard to chose, so if you are afraid of what she will think you could just have 2 Maid/Matron of Honor or no Maid/Matron of Honor if that helps.

Post # 4
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745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Wait until you’re engaged and less than a year from the wedding to say anything. If she asks, say “I haven’t thought about who is in the Bridal Party yet”, especially if you’re not sure about her being a Bridesmaid or Best Man. If you do decide to have her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, then ask her. If she asks about who’s MoH, you can tell her that you decided on L. You really don’t have to explain yourself to her.

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