- 6 years ago
For as long as I can remember, I have had 2 best friends, and another friend, who is more of a big sister. The big sister type girl is just a Bridesmaid or Best Man. (I dont mean that to be a down grade or demotion like it sounds
The 2 best friends, L and D. D and I have known each other since we were 2 and we never went to the same school, so we always had sleepovers on weekends, and went to summer camp. And we were inseperable, until halfway through high school. Thats when it started to strain….more and more…
L, on the other hand, has been there for me 100% since the 1st grade. We have been in school since 1st grade, and worked on the science fair projects together, all the way till senior year and we are still inseperable.
We are all 22 now, and D has not come to my last 3 birthday dinners, or party/outings. I have only been a friend of convienence, and I am always the first to call, my call or text is almost never returned and if it is, its 3 days later. But, when I go on facebook, she is with other friends, everyone but me. She isnt busy, just too busy for me.
I realise this makes me sound like a brat. I know 🙁 But lately, over the past 4 she has made attempts to hang out. But that does not make up for the past 3 years. And every attempt to get together, she is always with people at bars/clubs. I am on medication to where I cannot drink alcohol because of seizures. Why drive an hour towards her house to hang out with drunks, and yell over loud music to talk to her, when all I want is a conversation with her-ALONE- and she cant even give me that?
Now, she had some bad bfs in the past and is on depression medicine. And when she was living at home, dealing with a sister with a reallly bad case of ADHD was stressful for her, and parents on the verge of a divorce. She kind of lashed at my SO for not being a kiss ass to her when we were all hanging out one night because it was her birthday this past March, apparently on your birthday everyone at the bar becomes your slave. So she thinks my man is a major douche. But I really thinks she is jealous, cause she cannot pick out a decent guy out of a pile of zoo animals.
Well I have the promise ring on my finger, and the engagement ring is coming soon. I know she has it in her head that she is the Maid/Matron of Honor when in reality L has it, there is no competition. I love D for the friendship we had, her family is practically my family. But I am not even sure I want her at the altar with me-period-let alone with the “honor” title. How do I tell her nicely? Without starting a fight? Our friendship is JUST now starting to patch up, and I dont want to lose it again, for the sake of what we had.
And please be nice, I realize I may have sounded bratty, but if I would have written the 20 page story, trust me you would get it.