Post # 1
There’s a girl I was friends with in high school and for a few years after that I am “friends” with on Facebook.
I stopped hanging out with her several years ago because she was SUCH a drama monster and really judgemental.
One of my good friends recently got accosted by her to have dinner and “reconnect” and she said that this old friend is even crazier and more dramatic and cheating on her husband, blah, blah, blah.
So then she messages ME on Facebook and asks if I want to have a “reconnect” dinner.
Like …. what the hell?
How do I politely say NO???
Post # 3
Say you would love to sometime but you have a lot of things going on in your life right now and between work and wedding planning, the time you have left is too little to spread too thin and you use it to spend time with your family, but that you would certainnly think of her when your schedule frees up.
Post # 4
“Sorry, I simply can’t right now.”
Post # 5
@Stace126: “Gosh that would be great, but I’m just so busy right now!”
Then delete and block! 😛
Post # 6
“Sorry, I’ve been flat-out lately! Hopefully we’ll be able to catch up sometime after the wedding. I’ll let you know when things free up for me!”
Post # 7
I guess I’m an asshole, but if you really haven’t spent time with her in several years, why not just ignore her? Nothing says “I’m too busy/not interested” more convincingly. I have a similar situation with an old high school friend that has been trying to reconnect for years, and every time I go out of my way to respond and actually explain that I’m too busy, it only seems to reassure her that she should keep asking until my answer changes.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t ignore her, nor would I give her false hope.
I would answer “It’s just not possible for us to reconnect . I hope things are well with you.”
Post # 9
I was in the same situation and it honestly wasn’t probably the best thing to do but I just straight up ignored her, I don’t have time for that drama. If you don’t care to be involved with her at all there is no point in letting her in life at all.
Post # 11
I would ignore her. She’s probably already seen that you’ve read the message (thanks to FB’s new stalker level notifications.) She’ll take the hint.
Post # 12
I would just ignore it.
I had a similar situation with a high school classmate. She went through this phase of being super catty to me in high school and then added me as a friend on FB. For some reason, I accepted, and then re-thought it. I deleted her, and she tried to add me back. I denied the request. I haven’t heard from her again.
I wouldn’t start a conflict over it or anything, but I think you have to be kind of firm with people like this or they end up running all over you.
Post # 13
What some of the other bees have said: I wouldn’t say anything. You can already feign ignorance of the message if you ever bump into her.
Post # 15
That is exactly why I don’t do “fakebook.”
Post # 16
Ignore it completely. Do not say anything that can be construed as wanting to reconnect at a later date.