(Closed) how do you tell someone you don't want to reconnect?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
6746 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Say you would love to sometime but you have a lot of things going on in your life right now and between work and wedding planning, the time you have left is too little to spread too thin and you use it to spend time with your family, but that you would certainnly think of her when your schedule frees up. 

Post # 4
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1852 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

“Sorry, I simply can’t right now.”

Post # 5
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7272 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Stace126:  “Gosh that would be great, but I’m just so busy right now!”

Then delete and block! 😛

Post # 6
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1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

“Sorry, I’ve been flat-out lately! Hopefully we’ll be able to catch up sometime after the wedding. I’ll let you know when things free up for me!”

Post # 7
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1853 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I guess I’m an asshole, but if you really haven’t spent time with her in several years, why not just ignore her? Nothing says “I’m too busy/not interested” more convincingly. I have a similar situation with an old high school friend that has been trying to reconnect for years, and every time I go out of my way to respond and actually explain that I’m too busy, it only seems to reassure her that she should keep asking until my answer changes. 

Post # 8
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45631 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t ignore her, nor would I give her false hope.

I would answer “It’s just not possible for us to reconnect . I hope things are well with you.”

Post # 9
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1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I was in the same situation and it honestly wasn’t probably the best thing to do but I just straight up ignored her, I don’t have time for that drama.  If you don’t care to be involved with her at all there is no point in letting her in life at all.

Post # 10
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3260 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ignore it completely.

Post # 11
Hostess
7564 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would ignore her. She’s probably already seen that you’ve read the message (thanks to FB’s new stalker level notifications.) She’ll take the hint. 

Post # 12
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580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would just ignore it. 

I had a similar situation with a high school classmate. She went through this phase of being super catty to me in high school and then added me as a friend on FB. For some reason, I accepted, and then re-thought it. I deleted her, and she tried to add me back. I denied the request. I haven’t heard from her again.

I wouldn’t start a conflict over it or anything, but I think you have to be kind of firm with people like this or they end up running all over you. 

Post # 13
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1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

What some of the other bees have said:  I wouldn’t say anything.  You can already feign ignorance of the message if you ever bump into her. 

Post # 15
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8474 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

That is exactly why I don’t do “fakebook.”

Post # 16
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1146 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Ignore it completely. Do not say anything that can be construed as wanting to reconnect at a later date.

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