How do you tell someone you're taken.

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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123burrner456 :  I unashamedly “husband drop” somewhere in the conversation. I don’t care about hurting the feelings of a man coming onto me, I care about respecting my husband’s feelings.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I am left handed so I make sure I’m wiggling my wedding set around… 

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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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123burrner456 :  Why would you care if some stranger’s feelings are hurt? Really? You just play the my husband this or that.. not a huge deal 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - -

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123burrner456 :  cool, if he likes you getting hit on, nothing to talk about.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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123burrner456 :  Woah. I apologize if my comment was offensive – I genuinely wasn’t trying to be snarky or insinuate that your husband had any issue with the way you handle those types of situations. I was just answering your question with how I would handle that situation.

And for me, I don’t care how ackward or goofy or harsh that “husband drop” is for the person hitting on me. Because I’m genuinely not overly concerned with being sensitive to their feelings as much as I am concerned with respecting my husband’s feelings. 

That doesn’t mean you’re wrong for wanting to be more gentle in your let-downs. I just feel that any time I’ve been gentle in those situations, they don’t “take the hint.” But whichever way you feel is best.

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Buzzing Beekeeper

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123burrner456 :  Having a conversation with someone isn’t wasting their time or leading them on. If they feel like it is, then they’re a jackass and kinda deserve it. I wouldn’t worry so much about this. If you suspect someone is hitting on you and there’s a good opening to mention your BF/FI/DH/whatever, cool, take the opening. But if there’s not, so what? Humans are allowed to talk to each other without it leading to sex or love. 

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Busy bee

Arrogant? Most people who go through life have a spouse. It’s not arrogant to say so. It’s not “bad” either. I think it’s disrespectful to not say what’s really up. I’d be mad if my SO did that to another woman. 

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Blushing bee

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123burrner456 :  “Just wondering what other people do in those instances where you think you might be getting hit on but don’t know how to tell the person that you’re married/in a relationship. 

I was sitting alone at a party the other night and a man came and sat with me and we were chatting. I got a strong vibe that he was interested. I knew I should do the whole “oh you like soccer, my husband likes soccer too!” but it felt too forced and presumptuous.”

 

If he doesn’t really outspoken say anything about it or suggest anything, I would just reply politely to what he says as I would to anyone until I’m getting hit on to the point that it doesn’t feel forced and presumptuous to tell him the “my husband” – comments. 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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123burrner456 :  I wouldn’t worry about a random’s feelings. I’d def bust out the husband language right away and have my ring clearly visible. I’d also make sure to make my body language not inviting to flirtation. Taken. Not interested. Byeeeee

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