Post # 1
Fiance and I just got our engagement photos from our photographer and . . . we don’t like them. The photography itself is awesome and of the style we’ve come to love from our photographer. It’s really how we look in the photos. In a couple my shirt is all bunched up or my jeans look like they need to be adjusted. I followed all the advice I could read and we wore everyday stuff we felt comfortable in. But in a lot my fiance complains he looks heavy (we’ve both struggled with weight issues), my hair looks all bunched up, or we’re captured in unflattering angles. Is there a polite way of telling our photographer we just don’t really like the photos? They come with the cost of our wedding day, so I don’t know if we should offer a little extra to do a reshoot, or if we should just leave it as is. We had hoped to use a photo or two for our save-the-dates, but there is maybe one I like we could use but my fiance doesn’t, so we’re at a bit of an impasse. Has anyone else ever experienced the same issue?
Post # 3
Sit on the pictures for a week or two and come back to look at them again and you’ll likely start to like them more. We tend to be overly critical of pictures of ourselves, especially when you first get them back. We did the same thing with our e-pics and wedding pics. At the end of the day you have to remind yourself that a photographer cannot change the subject matter. It sounds like the photography work itself is good, the other stuff is very subjective. For example you say unflattering angles – what’s unflattering to you may look greaet to someone else. From what you’ve posted it doesn’t sound like the photographer owes you anything else in terms of more pictures, but if you’re not happy with the way you looked and what to try again before the wedding, I’d offer to pay the regular rate for a session – not just “a little extra”.
At the end of the day, you’re e-pics are only going to be important for a few weeks! We looked at ours a few times after we first got them done and have 2 in frames in the house. I made a photobook with them and haven’t looked at it since we got it!
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@kbear18: IMO Engagement shoots are the time to point that stuff out to your photog so they know what you like and don’t like for your wedding day. So yes, I think if you decide not to ask for a full reshoot you need to bring these issues up to the photog. And if you only have one usable image you definitely should ask for a reshoot!
Just be nice, tell them what you said, that you like his style but would rather be shot at such and such angle and mention that s/he please pay attention to if your clothes need adjusting.
In one of me and DH’s wedding shots the photographer failed to tell me that my coat was OBVIOUSLY folded over funny 🙁
Post # 5
Like a PP I would just politely ask your photographer to make sure they point out those little details on the wedding day. Like if your dress is sitting funny, or your bra is showing, or your fiance’s jacket is situated weird, etc. As for the other things you mentioned (the hair and weight insecurities) that really isn’t the photgrapher’s fault. I hate a lot of my engagement pictures but that’s because I think I look fat in a lot of the pictures (I have weight insecurities too) and because my hair fell flat right after I curled it. Definitely not photogs fault so I really can’t say anything about that. Maybe just mention that y’all aren’t comfortable with certain angles due to weight issues
Post # 6
I don’t think I would ask for a reshoot, but I might come up with a few key things you would really like the photographer to do at the wedding – ie suggest you straighten your clothing out or an angle you think is flattering.
The other appearence things aren’t the photographers fault, and a re-shoot won’t fix them.
Post # 7
@MrsWBS: I agree.
We decided to forego engagement photos for this reason. Heck we barely look at our wedding photos.
Post # 8
I had the exact same problem. the background and shots and lighting where amazing, but I looked terrible in all my engagement photos. I tried to convince myself it was fine, but eventually I told her (the photographer) that I was pretty disappointed with how I looked on the pictures and that maybe I didn’t do a good job of telling her which angles flatter me, or which features I was to minimize, not accentuate .
My photog was so nice about it, she said she was sad I didn’t like them but was determined to get it right for the wedding day. So she agreed to an extra photoshoot, free of charge, and just relaxed, just to show her how I like to be photographed. (I.e, I have a pretty large nose, and hate my profile, and almost everything was profile. I have a young looking face so when I don’t smile I feel like I look even younger and a lot of picture she caught me not smiling or closed-mouthed smiling. Not very flattering . :S)
I say you ask for the same thing. Just a relaxed photoshoot where the photog shows you the pictures shes taking and you can tell her what you like and what you think works best. That shouldnt be a problem. She should wanna make you happy with the final product, which is the wedding pictures.
Post # 9
It sounds to me like your problems with the pictures are things that aren’t the photographers fault and that they can’t change (your hair, weight insecurities, etc).
If you want a re-shoot, I think you should have to pay for it because the things you dislike aren’t due to things the photographer did wrong.
I also agree with the PP though that you should sit on them a couple weeks and I bet you’ll like them better and be less critical of yourselves when you look at them again.
Post # 10
@kbear18:The photographer has to work with what he has, he can’t alter how people look, just maybe enhance them a little. I always hate all the pictures I’m in too, but my insecurities are no one’s fault.
You should point out to him that you are unhappy with them and figure out what will work for you on your wedding day so you avoid this dilemma. If you decide to do a re-shoot, the right thing to do is pay for it.
Post # 11
if your fiance is overweight or your hair wasn’t looking good, there’s really nothing the photographer can do. even the jean issue, you’d need a stylist for that. so, i don’t think you can mention these things to the photographer
Post # 12
If you want a reshoot, I think you should pay for it. It sounds like your issues, not the photographer’s work, are what is keeping you from loving the photos.
Post # 13
Nothing you mentioned seem to be the photographers fault.
Post # 14
I agree with the others, it sounds like the photographer did their job but you’re just feeling insecure about how you look. Which is TOTALLY normal. I would maybe ask some family/friends what they think. I’d bet you look a lot better than you think you do!
But, if you’re really just unhappy with how you look I think you should offer to pay full price for a reshoot.
Post # 15
Thanks ladies for all your advice. SilkSpectre you really helped put it in perspective, and I’m glad I’m not the only one who’s experienced this! I definitely plan on mentioning some changes to the photographer, but for now my fiance and I decided we shouldn’t ask for a reshoot. If she offers, great, but we’re so close to our wedding date we don’t have time to get new pics for our save-the-dates.
Post # 16
I would take the photos as a learning experience as to what poses look best for you and your fiance. If you want a re-shoot maybe look for livingsocial.com deals in your area. I have seen a bunch of photographers offering engagement shoots at a steep discount. That way, you can get photos from a different professional and perhaps find poses that create your ideal photos. You can also get a camera, set it on a timer, and take a bunch of photos with just you and your significant other. I have done this a lot recently and I have learned a lot about what works and what does not work for my fiance and I. During our last vacation I took about 200 photos using the self timer. Boy, did we learn a lot and we plan on using this to make the most out of our photos….. Hope this helps….