So my question is, how do you and your SO (husband, Boyfriend or Best Friend, etc) treat your relationship? We treat it as a unit; the whole cannot function without all the parts.
Are you each the other’s number one priority? Absolutely. He is my number one, and he definitely comes before anyone/thing else. The same can be said about how he feels about me.
Are you a team? Definitely. We have to work together and communicate effectively to keep ourselves sane!
Are the other person’s needs more important/equal to your own or do you always put yourself first? His needs are more important to me than my own. However, my needs are absolutely important, and I let him know what they are! I don’t put myself first, but I also don’t put myself on the backburner, if that makes sense.
How much do you compromise in a relationship to make it work? I am willing to compromise, if he is also willing to compromise. You HAVE to find a happy medium or one of you will always feel like you’re giving more than recieving. It needs to be split 50/50.
Do you expect your SO to put you first, before friends, work, etc., and always have your back? Before friends and work, yes. Before himself, I don’t expect that, but I know he does. I still want him to feel independant (where he knows he can do things he likes, hang out with whomever he wants, and work as much as he needs), but I also expect to be the priority above them. Say he wants to hang out with his friends one night and I want us to stay home and rent a movie. I’d let him hang out with his friends without mentioning my desires IF we haven’t already discussed plans for a movie. If I’d already talked to him about what I wanted us to do and made plans accordingly, I’d expect him to tell his friends no. 😉 And yes, he should always have my back. Even if I’m completely wrong, I want to know that he supports me anyway and ‘takes my side’.
Is it okay to want a partner and teammate in life, i.e. shared experiences and life are better? Of course it’s okay to want a partner/teammate in life. That is what gives life it’s sweetness. 😀