Post # 61
Ugh this makes my stomach drop for you. Once MAY have been a “mistake” (if you can even call it that), but twice is a choice and an indication of a major character flaw IMO. I know you love him and how hard it must be to call off a wedding, but imagine how much harder a lifetime of this crap would be. You deserve a guy who would never dream of putting you in this position to begin with. Sending you hugs and well wishes.
Post # 62
- Wedding: February 2018 - Emerald at Queensridge
I think I can honestly say right now that if my husband ever cheated on me, I could never forgive him or trust him again. Even if he was entirely faithful every single second of every day after a cheating scandal I still wouldn’t trust him. It would be totally ruined for me.
Edited to add: He doesn’t “need” more attention from women. He just WANTS attention from several women. Some people just aren’t meant to be monogamous. Let him go and you will find a man who wants to be with you and only you. Your current situation is neither healthy nor conducive to a lasting marriage. Get out now while you aren’t legally attached.
Post # 63
anonymous6630 : Thinking of how you are doing….any updates?
Post # 64
I’m ok. I’m still in the house, basically living in separate rooms. We were supposed to go on a trip this weekend, I am going to go with a girlfriend instead. So I will have a little time away to think and process. He is doing everything to try to get me to stay. We have both been to see a counselor, separately.
It is so so easy to say what you would do until it actually happens. Of course, everyone thinks cheating is a dealbreaker, that they would leave their partner immediately if they ever found out. But everyone also thinks it will never happen to them.