How do you trust someone after they've cheated?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 61
221 posts
Helper bee

Ugh this makes my stomach drop for you. Once MAY have been a “mistake” (if you can even call it that), but twice is a choice and an indication of a major character flaw IMO. I know you love him and how hard it must be to call off a wedding, but imagine how much harder a lifetime of this crap would be. You deserve a guy who would never dream of putting you in this position to begin with. Sending you hugs and well wishes. 

Post # 62
394 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - Emerald at Queensridge

I think I can honestly say right now that if my husband ever cheated on me, I could never forgive him or trust him again. Even if he was entirely faithful every single second of every day after a cheating scandal I still wouldn’t trust him. It would be totally ruined for me.

Edited to add: He doesn’t “need” more attention from women. He just WANTS attention from several women. Some people just aren’t meant to be monogamous. Let him go and you will find a man who wants to be with you and only you. Your current situation is neither healthy nor conducive to a lasting marriage. Get out now while you aren’t legally attached. 

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