Post # 1
My Fiance and I have decided to ask that no children under the age of 12 are to be at our weddding/reception… but we are having trouble wording our request on the wedding invitations without coming off rude…
Any suggestions?? Thanks!!
Post # 3
On our invitations, we had all the normal stuff, and then in the left corner we said, “Adult reception beginning at 6:30, Blank Hall ………..” We haven’t had any rsvps with kids. 🙂
Post # 4
same wording used as @alina_mac – iwill post to see how the RSVPs go when we start getting them 🙂
Post # 5
We are also having No Children – neither the ceremony nor at the reception. Martha Stewart’s ettiquette said not to list anything at all so we did not put anything specific on the invitations – we just told our parents/family and they are all spreading the word by mouth.
Post # 6
we had a reception card and at the bottom it had… adult reception only. pretty simple
Post # 7
Don’t change the wording of your invitation, just address the invitation to the people you are inviting. Let your parents/close friends spread the word to people who are unsure or planning to bring their kids.
You might also bring it up casually when you speak with people and they ask how wedding planning is going (“it”ll be nice for you and [SO’s name] to have a night out” or “my aunt knows a good sitter in the area if you’re bringing the kids for the weekend”).
Post # 8
I have a couple suggestions…..
We are only inviting the children of immediate family because other friends/relatives have so many kids, so besides word of mouth, I put this on our wedding website, “We wish we could include all children, but we are unfortunately only able to invite the children of immediate family.” (or it’s something like that!)
I got this idea from another wedding message board for what to put on the invitations, so perhaps it can help you…..
Above the RSVP lines and food options, we’ll be putting, ” _____ seats have been reserved for you at our celebration. Please let us know if you will be joining us! YES____ NO _____” We’ll be writing in the number of seats we’re having for them/their party so there is literally NO confusion 🙂
Putting “adult reception” on an info or rsvp card is another way most of my bride friends have done it, but still, some people just don’t get it and/or they have a lot of nerve! 🙂
Post # 9
I am doing two things to ensure no kid add-ons-
(1) Having RSVP card say ___ of ___ in party attending (and filling in the number invited)
(2) Insert card with guest info says “Respectfully, An Adult Occasion.”
Post # 10
we did two things
1. we had “_ seats have been reserved in your honor”
and 2. “sweet dreams to children under 16”
however we know we’re gonna get a fight. but i’m prepared to fight it. lol
Post # 11
The best way I have seen it done is for my friend’s wedding. She didnt put anything on paper, but on the wedding website said something to the tune of “in order for parents to better enjoy themselves as a couple, the bride and groom request that this be an adults only reception. Professional babysitting will be provided at the hotel.”
I thought it was the nicest way to say “no kids” and it was very thoughtful (and expensive im sure) to pay for babysitting services.
Post # 12
LOL @ “sweet dreams to children under 16”
If I wasn’t reading that in the context of this thread, though, I’d have no idea WTF you were talking about.
Post # 13
Every etiquette column in the world says you can’t say “adult reception” or anything so specific, and that simply addressing the invitation to only the people invited is all that is necessary. However, it depends on the family; some family members just aren’t going to get the etiquette hints and will be determined to drag said children along unless specifically told not to. I guess I’d rather write “adult reception” than make it my parents/sister/family’s job to police the guest list.
Post # 14
Adult only reception on the invite. Also try searching for what you have questions about in the search box as this has been asked many times and much better than I just did. 😉
Post # 15
This is really helpful. I was just going to put it in the wedding website and then rely on the word of mouth thing, but I am so paranoid that someone’s going to bring their kid(s) anyway and it’ll cause a scene with the ones who understood their kids weren’t allowed. I think “Adult Reception” sums it up pretty succintly and “professionally”.
Post # 16
@lilcshelli: Just say it that way. Word of mouth or assuming the person will know its no kids is just cause for more headache.