(Closed) How do you word a “no kids” wedding invite?

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Ashley B: totally agree! “adult reception” it is!

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with no kids. Word of mouth may be best.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with no kids. Word of mouth may be best.

Post # 20
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Helper bee

You shouldn’t say “adult only reception” or “no kids” or anything of the sort.  It’s rude to point out who isn’t invited.

Address the invite to “Joe and Sally Smith”.  The wording for a family would be:
“Joe and Sally Smith
Billy, Suzie, and Janie (or “and family” on the first line).

If somebody RSVPs for 5 after that, you can call them up and say that you’re sorry, but you can’t accomodate children.

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Im doing the same thing… immediate family childern only….

how do i word just that on the invite so its not rude, and people dont say “well these kids are here”

Post # 22
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Helper bee

Proper etiquette? You don’t mention it at all.

However, you’re free to put it on there, if you like.  I doubt you’re going to be arrested for overlooking that matter.  On the other hand, you can go by word of mouth, possibly provide childcare, who knows? 

Personally, depending on how many children there are, I was thinking to provide a second little area where they can have their own fun, sort of a separate party, with someone to watch over them.

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think that it really depends on your guests on whether or not it really needs to reinforced with the wording on the reception card. The mister and I told his family right away that there would be no under 21 allowed (as the children would about about 20 more people to the guest count) and some were very upset and have still asked if the children can come for certain parts and we have held our ground. We love the little ones, but based on other family gatherings they tend to cause a bit of a ruckus that doesn’t allow for the adults to have fun.

Post # 25
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Blushing bee

I know this is an old thread, but you absolutely should not put anything about no kids or adults only anywhere on the invite or on any other insert. All you need to do is address the envelope to those who are invited. If they RSVP for more, call them up and tell them that you’re sorry, but you only have seats for so and so, and you hope they can still make it.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@jentus1813:  we are using card pockets so the invintation is formal, but then have a insert for “ceremony, reception, RSVP and Other information” on the “reception” card im having it worded “adult reception” also on the “other information” insert have a link to our weding website and there is a section of “need to know about the wedding” directions, times and such there is a break down of “wedding party color” “theme” “adults only ceremony/reception, sorry we dont have children yet of our own so we would like to have fun with the adults while we still can” the wedding website is less formal, actually its more like our style then the actual wedding will be. also i told my mom to tell everyone being i dont like the idea of kids they cant come find a sitter…  moms got a big mouth so hope it works…i dont want a kid screaming when i should be saying “i do”

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Respectfully, an adult only occassion.

Post # 28
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Blushing bee

@lexmek27:  

It’s against etiquette to put anything about Adults Only (or anything along that line) anywhere on the invitation or other insert going along with the invitation. Spread it by word of mouth and put the names of those invited on the envelope.

 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree, it is bad manners to put adults only anywhere.  In addition to addressing invites only to inivited guests, I did the following on RSVPs.  This emphasized who was invited.  It takes more time, but worth it, imho.

 

 

 

                           Will Attend       Regrets        Steak           Chicken   Vegan

 

 

 

John Smith            _____          _____          ____           ______      ___          

 

Maria Smith           _____          _____         ____           ______            __

Post # 30
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Blushing bee

We aren’t going into that much detail (waayyy too many people invited!), but we did put a line where we are filling in number of seats reserved in their honor, and they will fill in their name(s) and how many will be attending.

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

JBH, I realize it takes time, but I felt it was worth it.  It emphasizes that invites are non-transferable, that +1 s are at the hosts perogative, in addition to no kids.  btw, I did very few STDs (only to VIPs) — to send those to everyone, that I think is not only a waste of time, but commits host to inviting them.

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@jentus1813:  You just address your invitations to the people invited.  You can also word thr RSVP’s as ” two seats have been reserved in your honor _ of two will attend.

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