Post # 1
My birthday is a week away, but my in-laws haven’t brought it up or mentioned it at all. We live in the same city as them, so we see them quite often. Today, we were visiting with them, so I casually said that my birthday was next week. They asked how I was going to celebrate. I told them I had no formal plans, but would like them to join me and DH for brunch on my birthday. My FIL’s first response was, “Well, who’s going to pay for that? I don’t want to get stuck with the bill!” I never expected them to pay, so I was a little surprised by his comment. Needless to say, it doesn’t seem like they are too enthusiastic about my birthday.
What do your in-laws do for your birthday? For those of you with in-laws living close by, do you celebrate together?
Post # 3
@Bichon Frise: I doubt my FILs will even acknowledge it. Well, maybe a card or a phone call, maybe… we’ll see in 2 months 🙂
Post # 4
Dinner, card, and gift. My SIL (their other daughter-in-law) has a birthday within a few days of mine, so it’s usually celebrated together. Sorry your ILs aren’t more celebratory!
Post # 5
They usually send a card and maybe a check. It’s annoying because FH’s birthday is the month after mine, so they usually mail us both cards at the same time. Thus my card is always way late. Like I’m an afterthought. Once they send flowers, but again, they were late and came with FH’s name on them.
Post # 6
For my birthday this year, we were actually at a family wedding, so they bought me a present, which was nice (and told everyone there it was my birthday, haha…)
ETA: I wouldn’t expect them to take me out to dinner, although they might, b/c we would probably be doing things with friends or just each othe that night. But actually, I think they might have taken us out to dinner earlier in the week. (argh, I have a terrible memory!)
Post # 7
We went to their house a few weeks before my birthday for dinner (we weren’t really there for my birthday, it just happened to be the closest time to my birthday that we were over there). My MIL put up the birthday banner like she does for everyone’s, and she gave me a reed diffuser, which still has the $5 clearance sticker on it. She does that with all her gifts so we know what good of a deal she got. I’ve learned the best response is to expect nothing and be pleasantly surprised if they do anything.
Post # 8
My FIL this year came in our door singing happy birthday & gave me my gift. haha Usually they just give me my gift though.
Post # 9
FMIL texts me day-of and usually sends me a small gift certificate and a card. Same thing she does for FI. She also signs the card “Mom.”
Post # 10
My birthday this year was 2 days after the wedding, so we were on our honeymoon. But when we got back MIL had sent me a cute birthday-girl wine glass as a gift. That was pretty much it, but honestly she was the only person who really acknowledged by bday at ALL this year so I really appreciated it. Next year I bet they send a gift, but they are always scared of intruding on us, so we have to initiate any get togethers.
Post # 11
They send a card and a present and call. Its nice and thoughtful, but nothing over the top (I live across the country)
Post # 12
I get a card and money. lol We really don;t make a big to do around here unless it’s a child’s birthday.
Post # 13
My FI’s family and my FIL are actually wayyy more thoughtful on this than my mom. They send me a card and small gift or gift card (we live in different states)…my mom almost never sends FI anything (again we live in another state).
I’m very certain if we lived in the same city as my mom or FIL we would celebrate with a dinner!
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
His mom & stepdad mostly just tell DH to tell me Happy Birthday. They don’t have a lot of spare money or thoghtfulness even if they did have the $$ ;]. His dad & stepmom though gave me a little gift & card, as well as havning us over for dinner & cooking my favorite meal [SMIL makes the best twice baked potato!!]. My parents met us for dinner one night with a card & a golf certificate for DH’s birthday. He’s easy ;] haha. Overall though, neither side does anything super fancy & we’re ok with/used to that [disregard my sarcasm & bitterness about MIL in the first sentence haha].
Post # 15
I only see my ILs 1-2 times a year, but when we all see each other they give us a belated gift (like months belated). They may also call on my birthday.
Post # 16
I got a text from my SIL saying happy bday lol, that was all
His parents don’t even call him on HIS birthday, so I certainly don’t expect them to call me.